The Bachelorette's Hometown Dates: What Does It Take to Turn the Cameras Off?

By Lily Sparks

Jul 08, 2014

The Bachelorette S10E08: Episode 8

Oh man, I almost teared up at the 3/4 mark of The Bachelorette’s Ho-town Dates episode when Andi and her dudes learned of Eric Hill’s death. When the crew, who we have NEVER seen, I mean they are 100 percent ghost protocol at all times, came out from behind their equipment like they were overcome by it and the cast and crew hugged, I was genuinely touched and sort of teary. Everybody was just being real and human and I felt right there with them.

But then I was like, “But why did they keep the cameras rolling, though?” I mean, not to BRAG but I have been on TV SHOOTS, PEOPLE and the people who are operating the cameras are always watching, super aware of when they’re “speeding.” They don’t just nonchalantly lay a camera on the floor with a perfect tableau of a living room centered in the viewfinder. Even if by some chance you did, why air it? And when I really thought about that, all my fuzzy warm feelings drained away.

But besides my first world concerns about TV networks pumping us full of hyper-emotions like steroids and draining us of all critical thought like steroid-ridden dairy cows, hometown dates were CUUUUTE! Starting with:


I don’t remember her bro's name, but he was First Impression Rose Bro, and he lives in Milwaukee and loves a good gourmet market and has 10 siblings, including the adorable Bella, who completely stole the first act with her darling interrogation of Andi and sort of unstudied enthusiasm. (P.S. what are the odds her birth coincided with her mom reading Twilight?)


YASSSSS. Just fucking pick him, Andi. He’s got a house. He’s got a career. He’s got a romantic streak. You’ll never starve. You can play so much Ghost in the Graveyard, which looked genuinely like the best time. I don’t know why a farmer seems so appealing to me right now, but an infinite stretch of time in a solid Midwest house on a giant Midwest farm with a super sunny Midwest guy sounds like heaven. Either Andi is going to marry this dude or he will be the next Bachelor. You heard it here first!


Okay. When you meet your dude’s mom and his sister and they are like funhouse mirror versions of you, you know you've got that guy in the bag. Call it Oedipus complex, call it repetition compulsion, but guys who date ladies who look just like their moms are DOTERS. As in they dote on you a lot! They need your sweet, sweet carbon-copy DNA to replenish the herd. It doesn’t get as weird as you think. HAHAHAHA okay let me stop it gets weird fast, but trust and believe that everyone on this planet is subconsciously looking to recreate their parental model in their current relationship, whether they know it or not so... either that creeps you out and you die alone or just find a way to roll with it.

And finally,


Stripper Man’s reprise strip was so foxy. And his family was so nice. But you could tell Andi was just not feeling it. It’s crazy how obvious it is when a relationship clicks and how obvious it is when it doesn’t, to a third party. Like if you’re in a relationship and you’re not sure how it’s going, have someone video record it and then watch it later and cry yourself to sleep? Guys, I know: I give the best relationship advice. You're welcome.

The fact is, Andi has about one sexy tropical weekend to go before she decides to either take one of these dudes in lawful marriage or look into Dancing With the Stars crossover casting. Who do you think Andi is leaning toward? Who will get drafted as the next Bachelor? And how impressed/unimpressed were you by Chris Harrison’s house? Real deal or did they stage a fake condo to throw off the stalkers?


... Could you transition to a full-time farm life? Does that sound idyllic or isolated?

... Who do you think Andi is leaning toward?

... Does Chris Harrison look a tiny bit like George Washington, first President of these United States? I’m trying to settle a bet.

... Who do you watch The Bachelorette with, and what do you laugh at?

... Bachelor in Paradise: promos are lookin’ sleazy or "yes-please-y" ?

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  • ChristaJocelyn Jul 11, 2015

    I would have been really upset if they didn't air it all. This is a guy that everybody in America (and beyond) got to know. Not airing the people grieving for him, the people that actually got to know him for a couple of weeks would have been very wrong, in my opinion.


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  • TonedeadJones Jul 18, 2014

    I seriously doubt everybody in America is watching this show.

  • JessX47 Jul 10, 2014

    First off! I love your Bachelor/Bachelorette recaps.

    1. I think I could totally handle farm life…it sounds pretty magnificent, when one of the life options handed to you is to become a "homemaker"
    2. I cannot honestly comment as I have succumbed to the spoiler that is reality steve
    3. Umm…no, sorry I can't support that opinion Lily.
    4. I watch by myself, because all my friends would laugh at me. I laugh at almost everything…except these Eric Hill segments, because then they just make me mad at their forced televisionness.
    5. Excuse me, while I go watch the promo…I've been hulu-ing it.

  • tamaabi Jul 09, 2014

    I actually liked how they dealt with Eric's death. There's no right way when an "eliminated" reality show competition dies and the remaining people learn about it. I guess it kind of reminded us also that these people spent a LOT of time together for a while, and not just 1 hour and a half every Monday night.

    As for Andi, I honestly don't know who she's leaning towards.
    I totally agree that Chris (Farmer Man) is definitely the next Bachelor if he isn't the "winner". He and his amazing family made moving out to the middle of nowhere somewhat appealing to me, and I'm the ultimate city girl, seriously.
    As for the two other ones, idk.
    I think Josh is her absolute dream man, based on the fact that with him, she keeps being fucking scared that the other show is gonna drop. Plus I like that things have not been so smooth with him, which is the one thing that might give this relationship a fighting chance in the real world.
    As for Nick (10 SIBLINGS OMG!), Idk.

    Imo Andi has been relatively good at following her feelings in this whole process, sending people home as soon as she didn't feel it, even if they were seemingly awesome and crazy about her (see: Marcus (Stripping Man), and quite a few other guys before too...). So hopefully she'll make the best choice she can.

  • CarlyChristen Jul 09, 2014

    Maybe I'm jaded, but it seems to me like the show is just milking Eric's death for all it's worth. His death is very tragic and I think it was right for the show to acknowledge that (like they did in the earlier episode) but I feel like the scene last night was emotionally manipulative and in poor taste. If I'd been watching it by myself, I would have turned off the TV.

  • Pheebs101 Jul 08, 2014

    Personally I don't get why everybody is so upset by the ABC and producers for airing the sadness that came after hearing about the death of Eric Hill. O found it to be real and it showed that, even though is a reality show where probably half of it is fake (although I refuse to believe that's the case with this show - I know, sucker for punishment), it is a show with people with some real emotions and it showed that grief isn't something that is gone within a couple of minutes.
    The fact that they showed that the people behind the scenes were grieving too, was actually kinda nice. They spend more time with Eric that Andi did.
    And seriously, I would have been really upset if they didn't air it all. This is a guy that everybody in America (and beyond) got to know. Not airing the people grieving for him, the people that actually got to know him for a couple of weeks would have been very wrong, in my opinion.

  • christieg77 Jul 09, 2014

    Totally agree. This is not something you glaze over or sweep under a rug.

  • csinner Jul 08, 2014

    Definitely liked them showing that part more than the interview with Andi when he exited the show.

  • Eric10301 Jul 08, 2014

    Holy crap, 10 siblings? What are the chances his family are Mormons?

  • christieg77 Jul 09, 2014

    I was so grossed out by that. Like really - 10 kids??? So gross.

  • LilyRoRoSparks Jul 08, 2014

    I thought the same thing but there was wine on the table!