Celebrity Wife Swap: It's All Fun and Games 'Til Someone Loses a Wife

Antonio Sabato and his wife/fiancé Cheryl might very well be the first celebrity couple to cite Celebrity Wife Swap as the experience that shattered their lives. In last night's episode, which should have been an older, down-to-earth pair reminding two very hot but OCD neat freaks to relax and enjoy their lives, we got a stunning reminder of how fast things can fall apart. The falcon cannot hear the falconer, guys. One minute you're simply pulling out your notes on how dirty the other wife's house was, the next you're running through the trees and telling your sex symbol husband that you'll be taking your newborn baby to the hotel and never speaking to him again.

Cheryl is super high-strung. Maybe it’s the non-stop sexiness of her husband that propels her to do things like make crafty seating place cards for a family of three. Maybe it's, in her own words, that "I do need to be perfect under His eyes... the Gentleman Upstairs." It's great if faith compels you to reach for a higher standard, but I don't know if that applies to housework as much as, say, to morality. Regardless of the reason for her high-strunged-ness, it’s the cornerstone of her personality.

The preceding meat of the show before the breakdown was pretty consistent with past episodes: plenty of talking heads, awkward family dinners, and trying to find pans in the kitchen. But Cheryl's breakdown at the end of the episode gave it a unique twist. With what seemed like no provocation, she left the post-game double-date discussion, charging off into the woods with a water bottle and four-inch heels like that was an option. Someone managed to wrangle her into a car, and she sat alongside Antonio in seething silence, demanding that the limo driver drop her off at a hotel rather than their house after a week of separation.

Poor Cheryl. She definitely got the shot end of the stick, being sent out to a house that was way below her cleaning standards and having to help Mick Foley get his unkempt foot in his sock.

Meanwhile Colette, Foley's stunning wife, practically licked her chops at the sight of Antonio, and while she had plenty of chores to do, caring for a newborn and a five-year-old has to be a vacation from the herd of T-shirt wearing buffalo that banged and clanged their way through the Foley house.

The narrative here was that the Sabatos are miserable perfectionists, while the Foleys have skipped a few chores, haircuts, and dental appointments and reaped family happiness as a result. The more subtle layer was the utter lack of solidarity between Antonio and Cheryl. When Colette came into the house, Antonio almost immediately brought up how often he and Cheryl fight. Colette introduced a "no chores" day, demanding that Antonio take the time to hang out with his daughter Mina (Cheryl's stepdaughter). Apparently after a relationship of two years, Cheryl had ten-year-old Mina on the ropes, making her cook and stay on top of a checklist of housework. Mina was visibly giddy, hanging all over her dad and simply being thrilled to be around while the adults talked. There was definitely a Cinderella-at-the-ball vibe about her, and Antonio remarked how he had forgotten what it was like to see Mina smile. Red flag!

Meanwhile, Cheryl lead the first family dinner the Foleys had ever had. Apparently Colette cooks all the kids individual dishes instead of one big family style meal, which is an insane waste of time. Cheryl was very game and well-groomed and convinced Mick to get a makeover. On the limo ride to the big summit, she seemed anxious about how Mick would portray her stay at his house, and he obligingly told her the only advice he would give her was to relax.

Clearly, being a perfectionist makes Cheryl not just a pretty lady with a tidy house and a cowed stepdaughter; it made her agonize over how she comes across on camera. When Antonio essentially joined forces with Colette to talk Cheryl out of her personality, it was a pretty huge betrayal. Who would want to reunite with his or her partner after a week apart and find out some stranger has convinced said partner that all their premises are wrong? That in just a few days, some interloper could paint your entire shared lifestyle as somehow incorrect?

Colette looked deeply and totally in love with Antonio, like she was sure she had made some breakthrough and was ready to be the loving stepmom she was convinced both his kids needed. While the wagons rounded to get Cheryl to "relax," everyone was ignoring the bigger issue, that Antonio was showing no solidarity with his wife. A few days of skipping the dishes, and Antonio was ready to chastise her on camera for not being "open" to the criticism, without even letting her get through her little compulsive list of stuff that had ticked her off at the Foley house. (Putting on Mick's sock alone would have been a 15-minute rant from me. Not that I would have done it, I would have gone to the hotel and then pulled the rant out afterwards. Handling a stranger's unkempt foot is ABUSE.)

You cannot turn on a high-strung perfectionist and expect her not to freak out, and Antonio should have understood that better than anyone. Antonio apparently doesn't understand how to communicate with Cheryl, and doesn't know her well enough to anticipate how deeply she would be hurt by his disloyalty. Colette, for her part, felt pretty great about the whole thing. You could read, "Your lady is hot but crazy and you kind of wish you were with me, right?" written all over her face.

The breakdown/up, while not permanent, was certainly an unprecedented display of honesty. The insert dinner, complete with crafty place cards in a surgery-sterile dining room, showed that the status quo had been restored. So maybe this was part of Cheryl's plan all along, maybe this is how she runs her tight ship—she blows up at the least resistance as a means of delivering a sort of ultimatum. And since Cheryl complimented Mina's potatoes, we know Cinderella is back in the kitchen.


QUESTIONS:

... Was Cheryl overreacting like a crazy person, or was Antonio ganging up on her with two strangers?

... Is cooking your kids whatever they want to eat every night bad parenting? Should every meal begin with, "You get what you get and you don't get upset"?

... Do you consider Antonio Sabato Jr. a "Sex Icon" and if so, where is Joey Lawrence on your scale ?

... Should Mina start stockpiling pumpkins and befriending mice?

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Jun 26, 2015
Cheryl acted like a immature twit..and a rude one at that, mentioned the foley dog pooping first thing which was embarrassing to foley wife, you could see it in her face and made her mad, Antonio knew she was rude , and then Cheryl trying to pull out a 3 page list. Antonio knew she was rude. And cut off Cheryl's list before she had a chance and Cheryl was pissed because of that...sorry Antonio but u have an immature live in g/f thats the momma of ur new baby.
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Nov 10, 2014
Cheryl should be totally embarrassed by how she acted. She had no valid points and repeated the silly ones she did think of, to pull the God card as he does not expect us to be perfect is ridiculous. She is either hormonal from giving birth or not happy at all. Be honest and open to love on your life or get out, but it is nobody's fault but your own if it doesn't work out
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Sep 24, 2014

crrrrrraaaaaazzzzzzzyyyyyyyyyy controlling isecure selfabsorbed Bi@tch.....feel so bad for his daughter....wrong wrong wrong....
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Jun 26, 2015
I agree !
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Mar 18, 2012
The "gang up" happened at the end because everyone else but Cheryl was open to change. Plus, the list of notes was just ridiculous. After the Foleys already agreed that there need to be more rules/chores, she decides to give a point-by-point list of criticism. Saying, "I don't understand how anyone can live like that" is just rude, and it was unfounded, too, since Cheryl said it because the dog crapped on the floor while they were away.



Colette may have been a little smug, but she seemed to be addressing issues that are more in the "you're doing it wrong" category. The worst case for the Foley's hands-off parenting is that the kids grow up a little bit spoiled and selfish and their friends get them to come off it once they get to college. Raising kids Cheryl's way could lead to her kids to grow up...just like her. And she seems like she needs to put on this false front all the time. She's cripplingly insecure, and she doesn't seem to be happy.
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Feb 07, 2012
As someone who struggles with her own OCD I understand where Cheryl is coming from. It's a hard and constant struggle and I fight it every day. Luckily my husband understands and is supportive of me. Cheryl needs to work on her problems but Antonio cannot expect her to just turn it off like a switch. There is no solidarity or communication between them at all.



Meal time, for me, is family time and those kids just seem spoiled and ungrateful.

That poor Mina girl really needs a break, you can't hold children to the same standards you hold yourself, especially if you have perfectionist tendencies like Cheryl.
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Feb 03, 2012
Love it.
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Feb 02, 2012
Making a 10 year old cook is ridiculous. Asking/teaching them about it while they HELP, that is okay. I oculd never expect a 10 year old to put an entire meal on the table, teaching them how, (balancing times, nutrition, spices) that is different than them having the entire task to themselves. Kids chore should be small, keeping their room clean and their stuff picked up, homework, and maybe add dusting or a night or two of dishes. Unbelievable. I'm glad I didn't watch it. That would have bothered me.
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Feb 27, 2016
I didn't watch either, also gladly, but a pre-pubescent child doesn't have proper muscle development to handle the work that it takes to do hard chores like that. I feel badly for her. She really is like Cinderella.
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Feb 03, 2012
After I did a little research: Mina is actually NINE. YIKES. Not even 10! Those of you who have walked from a fourth grade to a fifth grade class know that's quite a leap, so its even worse that a nine year old is slingin' pans in the kitchen.
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Feb 02, 2012
IF you make a 10-year old cook, it should be under supervision and with lots of praise, to give her a sense of accomplishment and capability.

I don't see a problem with giving it as a weekly chore, i.e.ONE night a week, as long as you don't demand big, elaborate dinners or expect her to do the shopping and cleaning as well.

But from the sound of it, the girl has a pretty hefty list of chores, and that sounds a bit much for a 10 year old - she's a KID, she's got homework, younger siblings who no doubt drive her a bit nuts, and a father who apparently never takes the time to spend some one-on-one time with her, and those are much bigger problems than having to fix dinner once a week or so. :(



And no, I would never fix separate dinners for all the kids - in a pinch, I'd do what my ex-mother-in-law did - her son got separate dinners when he started cooking them himself.

At around 10 years of age, incidentally. ;)
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Feb 03, 2012
Perfect solution! If they want something different they can cook it themselves. And then the age they start cooking is decided by how picky they are.
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Feb 02, 2012
I was in love with Sabato Jr.. in 1995; same with Joey Lawrence ( I even had his cd! that is how much I loved Joey, woah!)
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Feb 27, 2016
I loved them both as well. Joey Lawrence is on my list of hot guys that I have on IMDb. Oh IMDb is like the best way to keep track of all celebrity crushes. I only read this b/c I saw Antonio was involved. And I was like hotness here I come.
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Feb 02, 2012
Cheryl is evil, manipulative & for a forty year old she is extremely immature. She has not only embarrassed but publicly humiliated herself & Antonio. No wonder Antonio fights with her Cheryl is a crazy mental case & if he marries her it will only get worse! She wanted him to chase after her, she's an attention seeking, vain erratic person who needs serious therapy. She's mentally abusing everyone in that Sabato House & way too clingy & needy of that baby. No children should be in a totally clean environment not good for their immune system to live in a germ free house. Colette & Mick are wonderful. They are not phony or fake like Cheryl.
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Jun 26, 2015
The little girl has missed out on papa time, difinitly see that.
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Feb 02, 2012
It is horrible to make a 10 year old cook unless she wants to help. Teach the kind responsibility sure, but don't treat her like an adult. Let her be a kid while she still can.
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Feb 02, 2012
Antonio? Joey Lawrence? The only "sex icon" I saw was Mick Foley.
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