Frank Deford: (about letters he has received since his 8-year-old daughter's death) Most adults go too far in the wrong direction. It's a natural human error, I suppose; nobody tells you what to write to a bereaved parent. But some of them go on at great length about how difficult this must be for us and what wonderful parents we had been, which is, in truth, the last thing we want to hear, because it only makes us feel more guilty. Let me tell you something. If a child dies, tell their parents about the child, not themselves.