In 1994, Jay was one of 14 Guiding Light stars to appear on a special set of phone cards called "The Soap Connection Collection." The cards allowed fans of the show to hear interviews and behind the scenes info provided by the character who appeared on the card.
Jay was originally hired to work for one day on Guiding Light, but after seeing his performance the writers and producers of the show decided to give him a long term contract. He played "Fletcher Reade" for nearly 15 years.
As a young man, Jay attended a two-year acting program with award-winning playwright David Mamet. David was cut after the first year, which Jay says was the right thing to do, as David was "just awful."
Jay's oldest son, Lucas, is from his first marriage which lasted for 15 years.
Jay graduated from the University of the Pacific.
Jay's hobbies include water polo, baseball, and watching movies.
Jay's theater credits include:
- Passing Through from Exotic Places
- Serenading Louie
In 1990, Jay married actress Dene Nardi. The two met while she was working as a dayplayer on Guiding Light. Together they have one child.
Jay and Guiding Light head writer, Pam Long, had a five year relationship which resulted in 2 sons for the couple. Although Pam went by the name Pam Long Hammer for a while, the couple was never actually married.
In 1996, Jay was involved in a story-line on Guiding Light about a baby with Down Syndrome. That year the show was given an award by the Down Syndrome Congress, thanks in part to Jay's performance as a father of a baby with the disease.
Before appearing on Guiding Light, Jay was a writer for the show. In 1985, as part of the show's writing team, Jay was nominated for a Writers Guild of America award in the category of Best Writing on a Daytime Serial.
Jay has a "Bacon Number" of 5.
Jay was in The Drill with Sean Johnson,
Sean was in Combustible Russ with Brandon Kieffer,
Brandon was in An Abstraction on the Chronology of Will with James Chirbas,
James was in Forces of Nature with Sandra Bullock,
Sandra was in Loverboy with Kevin Bacon.
Jay: When I was in California, I did two series back to back, The Blue Knight and The Jeffersons. When they ended I thought, 'Well, I'll be starring in my own series any day now.' You know the story; I couldn't get arrested.
Jay: (talking about his wife) I love Dene so much. Thinking about my life without her, without our child, doesn't sound like too much fun!
Jay: I was still writing when I first came on [Guiding Light] as Fletcher, and it made a lot of actors on the show uncomfortable. I don't blame them; it made me uncomfortable. They thought I was spying, taking things back to the head writer about their attitudes. I did both the writing and the acting for about three months, but then it got to be too much, so I quit writing.
Jay: (talking about Guiding Light) What these stories provide is a validation - because our viewers know where we are coming from, they know what has happened to us and they have felt those things with us and have shared those things with us... and sharing, that's the first thing we try to teach our children, how to share, how to cooperate, how to socially integrate themselves.
Jay: (about working on the show "Guiding Light") This is a wonderful atmosphere. I like everybody who works here. Shows like All My Children are always singled out as having well-defined characters, and they do, but at the risk of sounding like an ass, our characters are more real; they're on a more human scale.
Jay: Acting is the best part-time job a boy could have.