Joan: Parents have a lot of anxiety letting go of their kids. They think that if they can get them into the best [college] they could possibly ever go, that will secure their life, and they wouldn't have to worry about anything, which is really not real. It's destructive to your children to have them feel like if they're not the very best, then they don't mean anything. An Ivy League school doesn't guarantee that you're going to have a meaningful life. It's sad.