Julia: Of course my family and friends are incredibly valuable to me. They keep me sane, they teach me things and I love spending time with them. I think that ranking what you value is a sort of western and linear way of looking at things. You can find great importance in your friends and yourself, but each doesn't preclude the other. As with any relationship, treating your family and friends well can only really happen if you can treat yourself well (and vice versa). And if your family/friends treat you well, then you are given the power to respect yourself. It's a cyclical thing. God, I sound like Stuart Smalley or Oprah. Ok, I'm done.