Erica: (after getting out of the session) You can't expect people to be like you. You are not your patient. It just, it seems so obvious now.
Dr. Tom: It is. It is obvious. And notwithstanding that, it has been one of the toughest lessons for me to learn.
Erica: For you?
Dr. Tom: Mm-hm. We tend, Erica, all of us, to see the world through the prism of our own reflection. We assume, without even thinking, that people are just like us. You know - the way that I, in the past, have made that assumption with you.
Erica: Like my Zayde and my father.
Dr. Tom: Like you and Julianne - as a business partner, as a friend ... When the people that we care about let us down, when they disappoint us, we have trouble seeing that we're holding them to an impossible standard.
Erica: You are not your patient. But at the same time ...
Dr. Tom: ... you are your patient.
Erica: (concluding) The lessons, they're two sides of the same coin. It's about finding the balance.
Erica: You feel like talking?
Zayde: Not really.
Erica: Look, I know that you're disappointed in me, but... I'm disappointed in you too. You really hurt my dad.
Zayde: Don't get me started about your dad.
Erica: He worked so hard tonight to give you the party that you wanted.
Zayde: To give me the party? It's not for me. He's supposed to teach his kids.
Erica: He teaches us things that are important to him.
Zayde: No, you're young, you don't understand. What's important are the traditions.If you don't carry them on, you lose them.
Erica: I know, Zayde, but-
Zayde: No, you don't know. The fact is, if you were my kids, I'd never raise you like this. Not in a million years.
Erica: But we're not your kids. And dad, he is not you, he is himself. He is a different man, in a different generation, raising his kids his way. And isn't he allowed, Zayde, to be his own person?
Zayde: You raise your kids and you expect them to be like you. Now, maybe that's wrong, but that's the way it is.
Erica: I think it's more than that. I think that we expect the people that we love, the people that we care about, to be like us
in all kinds of ways, and when they're not, we're disappointed.