It is incomprehensible to my 15 year old son how different the times were then. He has no frame of reference for the racism that everyone took for granted in those days, and any time we have watched movies or shows depicting racism in the 60s or early 70s there are always things that I have to explain to him - attitudes and subtle actions that I only know about because I was there. There were certain unwritten rules that we all knew about, but that are very mysterious to him.
But for me, it also brought back memories of my own 40 year friendship with a black girl that began at a time when that \"just wasn\'t done.\" We had become good friends in school, and during the summer when we wanted to stay in touch, we ended up writing to each other - usually every day! But phoning or visiting were out of the question. We didn\'t think a lot about whether it was right, it was just the way it was. This episode was pretty authentic in its depiction of the turbulence of the times - the slime sucking \"block busting\" real estate guy who only cared about making a buck off the chaos, the white parents who wanted to do the right thing by their neighbors but got caught up in the peer pressure of the neighborhood, the girls who didn\'t understand why they just couldn\'t be friends and the persecution of white kids who befriended blacks, the rage of the boy who was the victim of a violent and racist dad. I remember them all.
Another interesting thing was the response of the black friend, who stopped trusting whites altogether. I didn\'t realize that in in \"the real world\" that relationships between blacks and whites was different from the way we experienced it in our high school, and at least one of my friends was also totally unprepared for her experiences after we graduated and had our \"consciousness raised.\" I remember how surprised I was at our 10 year reunion how my wise-cracking, easygoing friend had become very hostile and bitter towards me and all the rest of the white kids who has been her friends in school.
A really good, thought provoking episode - one that provides a great opportunity to talk to our kids about racism, how far we have come, and how much farther we have to go.





