I just got my first episode while the World Series was on commercial (marital compromise). I was aghast at what I saw between Josh and his wife...not to mention the Judge.
I'm going to look for the previous episodes because I think this is inappropriately named...a Divorce Judge wrecking marriages isn't my idea of a cool reality show. Maybe it's in the vein of Maximum Exposure...watching car wrecks? My husband and I had strong reactions...enough for me to search out a board to post on, an email contact for the show...something to express what we think would have been a fantastic reality show which wrecked into adding more destructive for marriages.
We heard the Judge call The Marriage a "relationship" three times. We saw the Judge focus in on Josh as "the problem" instead of the marriage having problems (half and half)...and no instruction or exercises for communication skills, which both partners gravely needed: the wife constant parental shame attacks and the husband's desire for victimhood. They had a very workable connection/attraction, each filling a vital role for the other. They seemed smart people--didn't hear anyone pointing out how each needed to change to have any shot at a healthy relationship, really, with anyone.
Why would someone make a show without ready and able authority there who excelled on understanding marriage? Like putting two spiders in a sink and watch them duke it out, pulling out one for a few moments and throwing it back in. These are hurting human beings who really want to hear what's real from what's fantasy in their lives. All we saw was enabling going on by the authority, with a few tidbits of clarity for Josh thrown in. No responsibility by the wife, even caught blatantly in her own fantasy assumptions; no accountability.
Only takes one to change a marriage...either the wife stops her verbal abuse and shame attacks or the husband stops his victim quest. Better if both were shown their limits and power, I believe. What a great vehicle this could be for couples to watch and talk about, change themselves, transform their marriages. I'm going to see the full five episodes to check myself. I'm rather incredulous right now that this kind of destruction by the show wasn't obvious to the creators and producers.