Carrie, the sales girl, asks Frasier if Bulldog is gay because he is "overcompensating". Bulldog's portrayer, Dan Butler, is openly gay although his character on the show definitely isn't!
Martin: (to Frasier) You might think it's tough being middle-aged, but think about me... I've got a son who's middle-aged.
Frasier: (on-air) Hello, Rachel. I'm listening.
Rachel: Oh, thanks for taking my call, Dr. Crane. Um, I'm involved in sort of a strange love triangle.
Frasier: (off-air, to Roz) Oh goody, this is sweeps week! (on-air)
Rachel: You see, I recently married a widower. Now, Phil's a real good man, he's a kind man. But there's just one little problem. He insists on keeping an urn with his late wife's ashes on the dresser in our bedroom.
Frasier: That is a definite "Yikes."
Rachel: See, I knew that wasn't normal. He says it is, but I knew it wasn't!
Frasier: All right, Rachel, Rachel, now listen. Before you go off half-cocked, let's try to remember this is a very sensitive issue for your husband. Obviously those ashes mean a very great deal to him. And although I don't believe it's appropriate that he keep them in the bedroom, I suppose you could maybe move them to another room?
Rachel: Well, I guess I could try that. Maybe I'll move them into the guest room. (sound of crockery breaking) Oops.
Frasier: Rachel, what happened?
Rachel: Oh... oh, nothing. I gotta run, Dr. Crane. I've got some vacuuming to do.
(The line goes dead)
Frasier: You see an old man walking down the street arm in arm with a beautiful young lady. What do you think?
Roz: I think he must be really rich... Then I try to make eye contact.
(Frasier is concerned that if he dates a much younger woman, people will compare him to a local senior, frequently seen in the company of young girls. Niles is attempting to allay his concerns)
Niles: Stanley Barrister is a 60-year-old man who wears a toupee that looks like something he pulled out of a shower drain. You are 41 and obviously not wearing a toupee.
Roz uses the term 'gaslighting', which is a reference to the psychological tactic used by Jack Manningham in the 1938 play Gas Light, in which he attempts to convince his wife that she is going insane.
Episode Title: Fortysomething
The episode title is similar to the ABC drama series thirtysomething which ran from 1987 - 1991.