Season 3 Episode 12

The One with All the Jealousy

Aired Thursday 8:00 PM Jan 16, 1997 on NBC
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Episode Summary

Ross becomes jealous when he thinks he catches Rachel's new coworker whispering sweet nothings in her ear. After Joey lies on his resume, he is forced to teach a very hard dance to an entire Broadway cast. Monica dates a busboy from the diner.

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  • Fun and entertaining, like all good "Friends" episodes, but definitely missing a finer touch

    Season 3 is arguably, one of the weaker seasons of "Friends". Unlike the second, fourth, fifth and eight seasons, which glowed with brilliance at every step of the way, the third season of "Friends" went through a bit of rough territory. In spite of all this, it was more than watchable and made for many entertaining episodes, if not slightly forgettable.

    "TOW All the Jealousy" focuses around the sudden declination in Ross and Rachel's relationship, as a result of the appearance of co-worker Mark. Although this humour already begins to feel repetitive (for the previous episode saw Ross go through very similar changes), it certainly does make for some highly amusing stuff. To me, this is the changing point in Ross' character. Though often hated by fans, to me, Ross is one of the strongest, most consistently entertaining and most memorable characters. Virtually all of the show's funniest and most memorable moments revolve around Ross, and this episode, certainly is a changing point in Ross as a character. Never too interesting in earlier seasons, he is finally coming into his own.

    There are two of three story lines that work. Once involves Ross' increasing jealousy of Mark, which leads Ross on a desperate quest to "mark his territory" over Rachel, and the other involves Joey's audition for a Broadway play.

    The third story involves Monica going on a date with a poet/co-worker of Monica's who writes a particularly insensitive piece of peotry about Monica, which she misinterprets. This story line does not work, is entirely unfunny and bogs the episode down.

    As for the Ross/Rachel story, the ending of the episode begins to feel out of place considering the context of the season: Ross does not move on at all from Rachel and Mark, in spite of their conversation at the end of this episode (which is further played on by Rachel's sudden burst of jealousy)

    "TOW All the Jealousy" is funny, amusing but mostly, one that is easily worth a skip. 7.5/10moreless
  • Ross & Rachel continue to fall apart.

    Just when you think it can't get worse, it does! Mark actually works right next to Rachel. While Ross tries to "Mark his territory." "You might as well peed all around my desk!" - Rachel. That was hilarious. And then Ross tries to make Rachel jealous by going to a stripper for a playdate. I like how in the end, Rachel realizes she is jealous! Meanwhile Monica & the busboy wasnt my favorie plot. Well first of all, I hated the busboy from the beginning, so towards the end, I'm glad he got what he deserved. Joey lying on his resume, caused him a lot of consequences which was hilarious!moreless
  • Just a small step-down, but still good.

    After many great episodes this season, here is just a little step-down... Although it's not so great, this episode also has its times. It's full of humor, but the stories just haven't impressed me too much. Monica is dating a poem-boy who hates American women, but those scenes actually aren't so funny or interesting (a lack of story?).

    Phoebe doesn't have any major role in this episode, I wish she had a bigger role. Ross's jealousy goes to extreme measures, and it's quite funny, but I just feel like I've already seen this. Chandler also doesn't have such a big role, but he fills the blanks in the episodes very good. And Joey needs to dance for a musical, but he doesn't know how to dance, although he stated that he knows in his resume. I guess those are a little better scenes.moreless
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The Director

Guest Star

Carlos Gomez

Carlos Gomez


Guest Star

Wendy Schaal

Wendy Schaal


Guest Star

Steven Eckholdt

Steven Eckholdt

Mark Robinson

Recurring Role

James Michael Tyler

James Michael Tyler


Recurring Role

Trivia, Notes, Quotes and Allusions


  • TRIVIA (6)

    • Continuity: In this episode Phoebe says that having a stripper at a bachelor party is so cliché. Yet at her own bachelorette party in "The One Where The Stripper Cries" she is very upset when they did not get her a stripper and nearly insists that they do.

    • Continuity: When Ross confronts Mark, Rachel walks out the back hallway behind her desk. However, after Rachel catches Ross confronting Mark, there's only a wall behind the desk.
      Note: The "walls" to the right of and behind Rachel's desk are an L-shaped partition with hall access from either side. Rachel exits to the left of her desk and returns around the partition to the right of her desk. This partition can be seen clearly in Season 4's "The One Where They're Going To Party!". When Rachel is threatening to quit and Joanna is trying to convince her to stay, Joanna says "Sophie, get in here!". Sophie can be seen hiding behind the audience side of the partition.

    • Continuity: Ross said that he and Carol were together for 8 years, which means that they got together in 1985. However, In "The One with the Thanksgiving Flashbacks," Ross said that he just met Carol during the 1987 flashback.

    • Goof: In the coffee house when Rachel is talking to Ross about trust, a couple comes in behind her and stands at the bar. In the next shot of Rachel they have switched positions.

    • Goof: When Chandler is showing Rachel his stripper pen, Rachel is sitting with one leg up on the couch. When Ross walks in her legs are crossed, then she takes her leg down off the couch again and crosses them again.

    • Goof: When Monica is confronting Julio about the poem, there are two bottles upside down on the top of others. He turns one over, but in the next shot there are still two upside down, and then there are none.

  • QUOTES (15)

    • Phoebe: A stripper at a bachelor party.. that is so cliché. (suddenly inspired) Why don't you guys get a magician?!
      Chandler: Well, if the magician can open my beer with his butt cheeks, then all right.

    • Ross: She's having lunch with him? Lunch with him?! ...You should've seen the hug she gave him when she got the job! And, and, and, he's really good-looking. What am I gonna do?
      Chandler: Don't do anything. Keep it inside. Learn how to hide your feelings. ...Don't cry out loud.

    • Joey: Guess who has an audition for a Broadway musical?!
      Chandler: I wanna say you, but it seems like such an easy answer.

    • Mark: (answering the phone) Rachel Green's line, how may I help you?
      Ross: Hi, is Rachel there?
      Mark: And who may I say is calling?
      Ross: This is Ross.
      Mark: Ross of...?
      Ross: Of Ross and Rachel.

    • Monica: (to Julio) Your a poet and don't know it.

    • Phoebe: How was last night with Julio, señorita?
      Monica: It was so amazing! He's so sexy, and smart--which makes him even sexier! Oh gosh, I gotta show you this. Last night, we were fooling around and all of a sudden... he stops... to write a poem...
      Joey: Get out! I couldn't stop if a meteor hit me!

    • Chandler: (just getting off the phone) Okay! We have our stripper--a Miss Crystal Chandelier...
      Joey: Well sure, if you name a kid that, what do you expect them to grow up to be?

    • Barbershop Quartet: (singing)
      One, two, three...
      Congratulations on your first week at your brand new job,
      It won't be long before you're the boss.
      And you know who will be there to support you,
      Your one and only boyfriend,
      (solo) It's nice to have a boyfriend...
      (all) Your loyal, loving boyfriend, Ross. Ross!

    • Rachel: (to Ross) It was like you were marking your territory. You might as well have come in and peed all around my desk.

    • Chandler: (to Ross about how to impress Rachel) Well, why don't you send her a musical bug...? (reflecting) Oh, no... you already did that...

    • Joey: And before you know it, she's with him. And you'll be all, "Oh, man!" And he'll be all, "Yes!" And us, we'll be like "Oh, dude!" And pretty soon you'll be like, "Hi," and, "Well, I can't go. Rachel and Mark might be there." And we'll be like, "Man, get over it, it's been four years!"
      Chandler: He paints quite a picture, doesn't he?

    • Ross: I'm sorry, I was an idiot.
      Rachel: A big idiot.
      Ross: A big idiot. It's just what you have to realize is, this whole Mark thing is really hard for me.
      Rachel: Honey, why is it hard? I mean we've been together for almost a year now?
      Ross: Well, I was with Carol for, like, eight years and I lost her. And now, if it's possible, I think I love you even more. So, it's hard for me to believe that I'm not gonna... well, that someone else is not gonna take you away.
      Gunther: (to himself while eavesdropping) Let it be me! Let it be me!

    • Rachel: (to Ross) You have a play date with a stripper?!
      Chandler: Man, I gotta get a kid.

    • (Rachel has given Ross a passionate good-bye kiss)
      Rachel: Well, there's a kiss he won't forget for a few hours, y'know?
      Chandler: Yeah. Either that or you just turned him on and sent him off to a stripper.

    • Barbershop Quartet: (singing)
      Mr. Pretentious, you think there's no one finer!
      Well your poems are unpublished and you work in a diner!
      You're no God's gift to women, that's all in your head!
      You are just a buttmunch!
      (solo) No one likes a buttmunch!
      (all) And you're also bad in bed!

  • NOTES (4)


    • Monica: And you know what? I get excited about stupid stuff like when my People magazine comes on Saturday and the new Hold Everything catalog.

      People is a weekly American magazine of celebrity and human interest stories. The Hold Everything catalog was a furniture catalog by Williams-Sonoma that was discontinued in 2006.

    • The song that Rachel's "love bug" played was "Love Story" by Francis Lai, from the film Love Story.

    • Joey: (singing) You've got to pick a pocket or two. Boys, you've got to pick a pocket or two.
      At his audition Joey sang "You've got to pick a pocket or two" by Lionel Bart from the Broadway musical Oliver.

    • Julio: Flowers of Evil by Baudelaire. Have you read it?

      Les Fleurs du mal ("The Flowers of Evil") is a volume of French poetry by Charles Baudelaire, one of the most influential French poets of the nineteenth century.

    • Joey: It's a musical version of A Tale of Two Cities. So I think I'm gonna sing "New York, New York" and "I Left My Heart in San Francisco."

      A Tale of Two Cities is a historical novel by Charles Dickens. The two cities referred to in the title are London and Paris.
      "New York, New York" is the theme song by John Kander from the 1977 Martin Scorsese film New York, New York.
      "I Left My Heart in San Francisco" is a popular song, written in 1954, and most known as Tony Bennett's signature song.

    • Chandler: Keep it inside. Learn how to hide your feelings. Don't cry out loud.

      These are lyrics from the song "Don't Cry Out Loud" by Melissa Manchester.