Season 4 Episode 21

The One with the Invitations

Aired Thursday 8:00 PM Apr 23, 1998 on NBC
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Episode Summary

Ross and Emily discuss who to invite to their wedding. He wants to invite Rachel while Emily thinks it's odd. Ross sends her an invitation anyway. The gang receives their invitations, all except for Chandler, as they reminisce about Ross and Rachel's up-and-down relationship. However, a very pregnant Phoebe can't go. Rachel wrestles with the idea of going to the wedding and after deciding against it, breaks down and cries on Monica's shoulder.moreless

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  • A great first flashback episode.

    I loved this episode because it really gave an insight on the relationship of Ross & Rachel, & it showed me they broke up a lot. I like how the invitations fit in to everything. And Rachel still shows feelings for Ross since she is having memories. And Ross is having memories of Rachel. But still the flashbacks weren't much of highlights of their relationship,, mostly the problem. I loved the ending, when Rachel was most likely to say no & she pretends to have things to do as an excuse for herself when she is talking to Monica. A great clip show!moreless
  • Another Ross romance destined to be doomed.

    I can't believe that Ross and emily are getting married...!

    I still think Rachael is the one for him and no one else will do.

    Then I thought Chandler and Janice were going to be perpetually be together until hell freezed over.

    The comments Emily made about Ross probably shouldn't have invited Rachael to the wedding were a bit sad...we shouldn't she get an invite...emily should be more secure.

    Anyway it was good to see the flashback moments of Ross and Rachael's relationship and I still like the prom scene where Ross was gong to stand in for her date that didn't show up and then he did and rachel never knew until now what Ross was going to do.

    Anyways...I'm still rooting for Ross and Rachael.moreless
  • Oh no. Maybe the worst episode of Friends...

    This is extremely boring to watch, and all that happens is we discover that Phoebe can't go to Ross's wedding, and Rachel doesn't want to go, and Emily doesn't want to invite her, but Ross is okay with it.

    The reason this is so much worse than the other clip shows is that the other clip shows have more episodes to select clips from, and they focus on trying to be funny, rather than trying to sum up a relationship. The One With The Vows would be one of the funniest episodes that you could show someone new to Friends, but this isn't very funny at all.

    Some good points about this episode is that it does sum up Ross and Rachel's relationship well, and is good for people who have only watched the 4th season of Friends, not to mention that it must be truly fascinating to go back in time and see clips from earlier episodes. It also increased the money they could spend in the season finale I suppose (although they were already given extra money by channel 4).

    This episode can be a bit of a tearjerker too, especially with the scene from The One With The Prom Video, so that gives this episode a little extra credit too.moreless
  • Emily and Ross discuss who to invite to their wedding. Ross wants to invite Rachel and Emily thinks it is odd. Phoebe can't go to the wedding and Rachel decides to stay with Phoebe.moreless

    I like the flashback episodes and I think they make the show very good. Emily and Ross are discussing who to invite to the wedding when she sees that Ross wants to invite Rachel and she thinks it is odd. Ross has flashbacks of his and Rachel's up and down relationship in the past. He still sends Rachel an invatation. Phoebe finds out that she can't go. Everyone gets there invatations except for Chandler. Rachel has flashbacks of her and Ross in the past of there relationship. Rachel decides not to go to the wedding because someone needs to stay with Phoebe.moreless
  • Not a good episode.

    The first part of the episode is funny because Chandler and Joey want to climb Mount Everest until Pheobe tells them what could happen. I hate this episode because Emily is really annoying especially when she finds Rachel's invitation and that starts all the stupid flashbacks. The flashbacks are really boring, I get that they are an important part of the episode and the whole episode is basically flashbacks but they could have done a little bit less of the flashbacks and more of the episode it would make a lot of difference in the episode and the interesting parts in it. I don't see the point to the episode because you can figure out what will happen just by the flashbacks which is why it would be easier just to do a normal episode.moreless

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  • TRIVIA (3)

    • Trivia: During a flashback when Ross and Rachel are in bed after having gotten back together at the beach, Ross screams out, "We were on a break!" We see him screaming this in the bedroom, however, in the original episode, we only hear his voice screaming the words, while on screen we see Monica pop up from behind the kitchen table where she'd been cleaning.

    • Goof: When Rachel, Phoebe, Monica, Chandler and Joey get their wedding invitations, in one shot you can clearly see Phoebe's full address displayed on the envelope. But in another shot it just says "Phoebe Buffay" on the envelope. As well as that, if it only had "Phoebe Buffay" written on the envelope, it would have been impossible for it to arrive by mail.
      Note: The main envelope with the address and stamp on it contains two other envelopes. One slightly smaller with just the guest's name on it containing the actual invitation (this is the one Phoebe is holding that just has her name on it). Then, there is an even smaller, stamped, return-addressed envelope for the RSVP card. These three separate envelopes can be more easily seen when Rachel opens her invitation.

    • Continuity: On the wedding invitation that Ross sends Rachel, the envelope is addressed to "Rachel Greene."

  • QUOTES (6)

    • Chandler: Y'know what? Seems like all of a sudden... so much is happening.
      Joey: I know. Ross is getting married.
      Chandler: Phoebe's... making people.
      Joey: Everybody's doin' stuff.
      Chandler: ...And we just sit here. I mean, if I died, the only way people would even know that I was here would be by the ass print on this chair!

    • Joey: What are we doin'?
      Chandler: Wasting... our lives!
      Joey: I meant for lunch.
      Chandler: We have to do something, okay? Something huge!
      Joey: (suddenly inspired) We could climb Mount Everest!
      Chandler: No, no. Not something stupid. Something huge!

    • Chandler: It'd be nice to leave an ass-print on Mount Everest.

    • Phoebe: I never knew you couldn't fly in your third trimester!
      Joey: I knew that.
      (Everyone looks at him)
      Joey: So didn't know that... but you should see your faces!

    • Rachel: I'm fine. I'm happy for him, really, I'm... I'll work on it.

    • Monica: No! You're really not going?
      Rachel: Yeah. It's just gonna be too hard. You know? I mean, it's Ross. How can I watch him get married?

  • NOTES (4)