Season 3 Episode 3

The One with the Jam

Aired Thursday 8:00 PM Oct 03, 1996 on NBC
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Episode Summary

Phoebe dates a man who thinks he's stalking her twin sister. Ross and Rachel give Chandler "boyfriend" lessons. Monica uses her free time after breaking up with Richard to make jam and considers insemination through a sperm bank.

Who was the Episode MVP ?

  • The Hug & Roll.

    The episode I thought for once Rachel & Ross weren't going to get in a fight but I was wrong. Ross reveals the hug & roll to Chandler, and then Rachel finds out. They didn't solve the problem though. Janice getting her arm sprained because of it was hilarious! Monica wanting to have babies, it was funnier when she was making jam. Why they broke Joey's arm? Never know. Phoebe & Ursula plot continues from season 1. A talker accidentally stalks Phoebe, the whole situation is hilarious! I'm glad Monica didn't go through with the sperm bank. Joey helped her out!moreless
  • Funny as always!

    Again another great and fun episode in this 3rd season. Monica is dealing with her painful break up with Richard, Joey hurts himself jumping on the bed, Phoebe gets a crush on her sister's stalker and Ross and Rachel are giving Chandler relationship related advices. Joey by the way is sweet, I love him when he's eating all the jam! In all these the funniest storyline is Monica's.. Before with the "Jam plan" and later with her "Baby plan"! Even though I like Monica story the best, the funniest scene is the Ross' "Hug and Roll" thing. Everytime I watch it I crack up! Ross and Chandler are awesome in that part..moreless
  • Phoebe dates a man who thinks he's stalking her twin sister. Ross and Rachel give Chandler "boyfriend" lessons. Monica uses her free time after breaking up with Richard to make jam later considers going to a sperm bank.moreless

    Phoebe confronts the man who appears to be stalking her and finds out he was supposed to be stalking her twin sister,Ursula. Phoebe discovers her love interest for him and the two start dating, but phoebe fears he may still be stalking her sister and after following him to the station phoebe spots Ursula there to.

    Ross and Rachel teach chandler about girls, but Rachel says her and Ross can't help with Janice wanting to get close because they're "cuddily sleepers", however when Rachel leaves, Ross teaches chandler about his trick to hug and roll her when she's asleep without Rachel knowing. Chandler's try was unsuccessful when he accidentally rolls Janice off the bed, causing Rachel to find out.

    To get over Richard, Monica decides to make lots of jam for joey, but later decides she should go to a sperm bank, However her plans change when joey shares his visions of Monica with a perfect guy.

    After dislocating his shoulder during filming, the writers added the idea that joey fell off the bed.moreless
  • Monica makes Joey jam, and then she decides to take on a bigger project.

    I personally loved it. I understand how some people could have different views, but a lot of their problems are with Phoebe, who is my least favorite character anyway, so I kinda got used to not liking her. But I thought that it was great to see Joey have a moment with Monica where he was sweet and very caring, and he saw things from an intelligent point of view. I thought it was important, especially since we later find out that Monica was originally looking for Joey on the night that she starts her romance with Chandler. Plus, who doesn't love any episode with Janice? Overall, in my opinion, it was one of the better episodes of the first three seasons.moreless
  • Average

    The one with the jam is episode 3 of season 3 of friends. its average by friends standards, but excellent by normal standards. Monica is still trying to get over Richard, which she finds really hard. She has a plan - to get over her man by making jam! Eventually she gives up on this plan and considers going to a sperm bank so she can have a baby and take control of her life. Rachel and Ross give Chandler lessons on how to be a good boyfriend, he tries out Ross's hugnroll technique on Janice, but end up giving her a black eye. Meanwhile, in Phoebe's world she dates her sister's stalker but finds it too weird and ends up stalking him.moreless
David Arquette

David Arquette


Special Guest Star

Maggie Wheeler

Maggie Wheeler


Recurring Role

James Michael Tyler

James Michael Tyler

Gunther [uncredited]

Recurring Role

Trivia, Notes, Quotes and Allusions


  • TRIVIA (6)

    • Goof: In the scene where Ross tells Rachel that they are alone in an empty apartment, while he is leading her into the living room, the crew lights are visible at the top of the screen.

    • Goof: In the tag scene when Ross hits Chandler with his rolled up magazine, he only folds over one-third of the magazine. When it cuts to him hitting Chandler the magazine is fully folded over.

    • Goof: When Phoebe is talking to Ursula's stalker for the first time, her hands constantly move places, whenever the shot changes, with no time to do so.

    • Goof: About five minutes into the episode during a conversation between Chandler, Ross, and Rachel in the girls' apartment, a shadow can be seen passing behind the closet door in the back. This happens while the three friends are the only ones in the apartment, meaning that someone else was walking by backstage.

    • Goof: In the scene where Malcolm, played by David Arquette, is talking to Phoebe in the subway, you can hear him but his lips aren't moving.

    • Trivia: When Rachel comes out of the bathroom, she is wearing two different socks. The same thing happened in "The One Where No One's Ready".

  • QUOTES (19)

    • Monica: Hey, look at me! I'm making jam... been at it since four o'clock this morning.
      Ross: Where'd you get fruit at four in the morning?
      Monica: Went down to the docks. (to Rachel) Hey... Betcha didn't know you can get it wholesale.
      Rachel: I didn't know there were docks.

    • Rachel: (about the sling on Joey's arm) Did you tell the doctor you did it jumping up and down on your bed?
      Joey: No. I had a whole cover story, but Chandler here sold me out.
      Chandler: Well, I'm sorry Joe, I didn't think the doctor would buy that it just fell out of the socket.

    • Joey: Oh, Jam? I love jam! (to Chandler) Hey, how come we never have jam at our place?
      Chandler: (almost in tears) Because the kids need new shoes!

    • Monica: I'm going into business, people. I needed a plan. A plan to get over my man ... and what's the opposite of man? Jam!

    • Chandler: Do I look fat?
      Ross & Rachel: No.
      Chandler: Okay, I accept that. When Janice asked me and I said no, she took that to mean that I was calling her a cow.

    • Chandler: Okay, well Janice said "Hi, do I look fat today?" So I looked at her...
      Ross: Whoa, whoa, whoa. You looked at her? You never look. You just answer, it's like a reflex. Do I look fat? No! Is she prettier than I am? No! Does size matter?
      Rachel: No!
      Ross: And it works both ways.

    • Ross: Let's say, Janice is coming back from a trip and she gives you two options. Option number one, she'll take a cab home from the airport, or option number two, you can meet her at baggage claim. What do you do?
      Chandler: That's easy, baggage claim.
      Ross: Ennnh! Wrong! Now you're single. It's actually secret option number three, you meet her at the gate. That way she knows you love her.

    • Chandler: Janice likes to cuddle at night--which you know I am all for--but, uh... You know when you want to go to sleep, you want some space. So, uh, how do I tell her that without, y'know, accidentally calling her fat or something?
      Rachel: Oh, honey, I'm sorry we can't help you there 'cause we're cuddly sleepers! Okay, I'm late for work... Are you guys gonna come down?
      Ross: Uh, yeah, yeah, I'm right behind you.
      Rachel: Okay... Good luck, Chandler!
      Chandler: Thank-you, Rachel.
      (Rachel leaves)
      Ross: Okay, the sleeping thing. Very tricky business, but there is something you can do.
      Chandler: (mockingly) But I thought you guys were "cuddly" sleepers.
      Ross: No! No, not cuddly, not me, I'm like you... I need the room.

    • Joey: Remember when you were a kid, and your mom would drop you off at the movies with a jar of jam and a little spoon?
      Rachel: (with a patronizing smile) You're so pretty.

    • Phoebe: Okay, first... I'm not crazy. And second... say it, don't spray it.

    • Phoebe: I asked for the news, not the weather.

    • Chandler: Okay Joe, I gotta ask. The hot girl from the xerox place buck naked (he gestures with his one hand), or a big tub of jam (he gestures with his other hand)?
      Joey: (smiles and winks lasciviously) Put your hands together.

    • Monica: I've got a new plan now. Babies!
      Chandler: Well, you're gonna need much bigger jars.

    • Chandler: (in bed with Janice, thinking) Look at all that room on her side! You could fit a giant penguin over there. That would be weird though. Okay, hug and roll time! I'm huggin', I'm huggin', you're rollin', and... yes! Freedom! Except for this arm! Arm stuck! Stuck arm! Okay, time for the old table cloth trick. One fluid motion. Quick like a cat, quick like a cat! And one... two... three! (dumps Janice on the floor)

    • Monica: (looking at potential sperm donors) Okay. Alright, how's this? Twenty-seven, Italian-American guy... He's an actor, born in Queens... Wow! Big family. Seven sisters... and he's the only... (looks at Joey) ...boy. (looks back at the form) Oh, my God, under Personal Comments, "New York Knicks rule!"
      Joey: Yeah, the Knicks rule!

    • Phoebe: (about Malcolm stalking Ursula) You think he's still following her?
      Chandler: Pheebs... Wake up and smell the restraining order!

    • Monica: I think, that if you really like this guy, you should just trust him.
      Phoebe: Thank you, Monica.
      Joey: Or-r-r, you could follow him and see where he goes.
      Monica: Oh, that's what I would do--forget mine!

    • Phoebe: (Phoebe catches Malcolm following Ursula) Oh, well, what do you know? There goes my identical twin sister! Just walking along, looking like me!

    • Joey: (looking at Monica's donor form) Wow! This guy's an astronaut? That would have been cool! (Monica looks at him sadly) ...For like a day.

  • NOTES (5)