Season 2 Episode 11

The One with the Lesbian Wedding

Aired Thursday 8:00 PM Jan 18, 1996 on NBC
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Episode Summary

Ross's ex and her lesbian lover tie the knot, providing Monica with a job: catering the wedding. Phoebe is possessed by the spirit of an eighty-two year old massage client who dies in the middle of a session. Rachel's mom comes to visit and drops a bombshell.moreless

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  • Ross's ex-wife is marrying her girlfriend, which provides a job for Monica. Phoebe finds herself possessed by an dead client, and Rachel's mom drops by and reveals a big secret.

    This is one if the first American network television series to feature a same-sex marriage. New York City gay couples had no legal rights, when this episode aired, and many politicians, in both major parties, were rushing to support Federal and State so-called, 'Defense of Marriage' laws.

    This episode largely ignores the contentious, anti-gay political climate that existed and simply treats this as any other marriage. For the most part, the lesbian couple was well handled in the series, although they were restricted to a handful of guest starring roles, which did not leave much room for in-depth character development and personal displays of affection were, apparently, still taboo for network television.

    Beyond the wedding, we have some funny moments with Phoebe being possessed by an elderly client, who died on her table. I was never a huge fan of Rachel's mom but it is an interesting little bombshell to drop on your daughter.moreless
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    Ross's ex and her lesbian lover tie the knot, providing Monica with a job: catering the wedding. Phoebe is possessed by the spirit of an eighty-two year old massage client who dies in the middle of a session. Rachel's mom comes to visit and drops a bombshell. Phoebe was good here she was funny and wierd in this episode but what else is new, It was a biy creepy that a old woman died while she was massage by phoebe that would be wierd. Ross at the wedding was funny. Overall tjhis was a good episode I give it a 9 out of 10.moreless
  • Carol & Susan get married.

    Carol & Susan finally seal the deal! A spirit posessing Phoebe was VERY unrealistiv. So thats why I wasn't crazy about that plot. I guess it wasn't "Friends" material in my opinion. Monica getting crazy over catering, that I could see. Rachel's memorable quote towards Monica: "I think you said 'Don't touch that and get the hell out of my kitchen'" It was very enjoyable. Rachel has to suffer from her parents' divorce. Rachel's mom was kind of mean to her toward the end of the epsiode. I ;ike how Ross finally accepted that Carol & Susan were together. He danced with Susan! A great wedding episode.moreless
  • "Butterstoch? No? You'll be sorry later."

    This was a funny episode to see Ross's reaction when Carol and Susan told Ross they were getting married. Carol asks Monica to do the catering after their caterer gets in an accendent. Ross has to be convenced to go to the wedding and he ends up giving Carol away at the wedding. Rachel's mom comes to visit her and tells her that she's leaving her father and that she wants to be like her. She describes her situation as "you didn't marry your Barry sweet but i did"

    Phoebe thinks a massage patient's spirit with in her when she past away on the table.moreless
  • chandler is so funny

    Ross's ex and her lesbian lover tie the knot, providing Monica with a job: catering the wedding although it nearly doesnt go according to plan. Phoebe is possessed by the spirit of an eighty-two year old massage client who dies in the middle of a session and it turns out her dying wish was to see every thing.(needless to say, her spirit departs after the lesbian wedding). And Rachel's mom comes to visit and drops a bombshell: she's getting divorced from Rachel's dad.moreless
Phil Leeds

Phil Leeds

Mr. Adelman

Guest Star

Candice Gingrich

Candice Gingrich

The Minister

Guest Star

Symba Smith

Symba Smith


Guest Star

Jane Sibbett

Jane Sibbett

Carol Willick

Recurring Role

Jessica Hecht

Jessica Hecht

Susan Bunch

Recurring Role

Marlo Thomas

Marlo Thomas

Sandra Green

Recurring Role

Trivia, Notes, Quotes and Allusions


  • TRIVIA (5)

    • Factual Error: Same-sex marriage wasn't legal in the state of New York until 2011.

    • Friends is set in New York City. Joey was a cast member in Days of Our Lives, which is filmed in Los Angeles. Yet somehow Joey auditioned and films in NYC.

    • Goof: When Susan asks Ross to dance, she says that he can lead. As they begin dancing, however, she assumes the traditional male position, her left hand holding his right, her right hand on his waist. Furthermore, when the camera switches angles, Ross is suddenly leading.

    • Goof: When Monica is talking to Ross about Carol and Susan's wedding, Chandler is looking for something on the freezer. Then he puts his hands into his pants pockets. However, when the camera angle changes and he starts to sing, his hands are no longer in his pockets.

    • Factual Error: Days of our Lives films in Burbank, California but Joey lives in New York City.

  • QUOTES (34)

    • Carol: I mean, I knew they were having trouble with this whole thing, but they're my parents. They're supposed to give me away and everything.
      Ross: It's okay. I'm sorry.
      Carol: And then Susan and I got in this big fight because I said maybe we should call off the wedding, and she said we weren't doing it for them, we were doing it for us, and if I couldn't see that, then maybe we should call off the wedding. I don't know what to do.
      Ross: I... uh... can't believe I'm gonna say this, but I think Susan's right.
      Carol: You do?
      Ross: Look, do you love her? And you don't have to be too emphatic about this.
      Carol: Of course I do.

    • Susan: You want to dance?
      Ross: No, that's fine.
      Susan: Come on. I'll let you lead.
      Ross: Okay.

    • Joey: (About Carol and Susan's wedding) Are you really not going?
      Ross: I am really not going. I don't get it. They already live together, why do they need to get married?
      Monica: They love each other, and they wanna celebrate that love with the people that are close with them.
      Ross: If you wanna call that a reason.

    • Carol: (About Susan) We're... getting married.
      Ross: As in, "I now pronounce you wife and wife" married?
      Carol: Anyway, we'd like you to come, but we totally understand if you don't want to.
      Ross: Why wouldn't I want to come? I had fun at the first wedding.

    • Monica: Joey, speed it up!
      Joey: I'm sorry, it's the pigs. they're reluctant to get in the blankets!

    • Phoebe: (About being behind schedule) Monica, how did this happen? I thought you had this all planned out.
      Monica: Do you want me to cry? Is that what you want? Do you wanna see me cry?
      Phoebe: Sir! No sir!

    • Mrs Green: (About smoking pot) That's fine. I never did it. I just thought I might. So, what's new in sex?
      Rachel: Oh! What's new in sex?

    • Mrs. Green: This is so much fun, just the girls. You know what we should do? Does anybody have any marijuana?
      Rachel: God!
      Monica: All right, look, nobody's smoking pot around all this food.

    • Mrs. Green: So, what do you think of my daughter in the apron with the big job?
      Rachel: Oh, Mom!
      Mrs Green: If you didn't pour the coffee, no one would have anything to drink.
      Chandler: Believe me, sometimes that happens.

    • Mrs Green: There she is.
      Rachel: Mom!
      Mrs. Green: (Condescendingly) Sweetie! So this is where you work? Oh, it's wonderful! Is it a living room? Is it a restaurant? Who can tell? But I guess that's the fun.

    • Ross: (To Phoebe) Is everything okay?
      Phoebe: Um, no, huh-uh. One of my clients died on the massage table today.
      Ross: Oh, my God.
      Chandler: That's a little more relaxed than you want them to get.

    • Rachel: (About Joey on TV) Did I miss it? Did I miss it?
      Joey: No, I'm on right after this guy shoots himself.

    • Carol: (About Ben) So how did everything go?
      Ross: Oh, great. Great. There was a projectile, uh, throwing up incident, but he started it.

    • Chandler: (To Rachel) You know it's funny. When my parents got divorced, they sent me to this shrink and she told me that all kids have a tendency to blame themselves. But in your case, it's actually kind of true.

    • Mrs. Green: (To Rachel) I see you here and I keep thinking "Why can't I have this?" I want adventures. I want to hang out. I want a Chandler.

    • Joey: It really hit me last night. I'm gonna be on Days Of Our Lives. Then I started thinking about all of us and how these are the days of our lives.

    • Chandler: (Singing to Ross) Who's the bitterest man in the living room, the bitterest man in the living room? Hi, neighbor!

    • Mrs. Green: Oh my God! There's an unattractive nude man playing the cello!
      Rachel: Yeah, well, just be glad he's not playing a smaller instrument.

    • Rachel: (Holding a tray of coffee) Okay, who ordered what?
      Ross: Oh, I believe I ordered the half drunk cappuccino with the lipstick on the rim.
      Chandler: Yes, and that with the cigarette butt floating in it, is that decaf?

    • Mrs. Green: I just danced with a wonderfully large woman. And three other girls made eyes at me over the buffet. Oh, I'm not saying it's something I wanna pursue, but it's nice to know I have options.

    • Phoebe: Yeah, it's just so strange. I mean, she probably woke up today and thought, "Ok, I'll have some breakfast, and then I'll take a little walk, and then I'll have my massage." Little did she know God was thinking, "Ok, but that's it."

    • Mr. Adelman: Oh, wait, I remember, she also said she wanted to sleep with me one last time.
      Phoebe: I'm sorry, there's laughing in my head.

    • Phoebe: Do you wanna sit?
      Mr. Adelman: Oh, no, please, I spent most of mid-morning trying to stand up.

    • Mrs. Green: (To Rachel) You didn't marry your Barry. I did.

    • Monica: Ross, if you don't help me, I'm going to take the little cocktail sausages and create a new appetizer called pigs in Ross!

    • Chandler: (Talking to a lesbian) Penis, schmenis, we're all people, right? (The lesbian walks away)

    • Chandler: Well, I've got to get to work, I've got a big dinosaur bone to inspect.
      Ross: No, no. That's me.
      Chandler: Oh, yeah.

    • Chandler: The world is my lesbian wedding!

    • Mrs. Green: Monica! You look gorgeous! Oh, my! The last time I saw you, it was eat or be eaten.

    • Monica: All right people, we're in trouble here. We've only got 12 hours and 36 minutes left. Move, move, move!
      Chandler: Monica! I feel like you should have German subtitles!

    • Ross: And you had no idea that they weren't getting along?
      Rachel: None!
      Joey: They didn't fight a lot?
      Rachel: No, they didn't even talk to each other! How was I supposed to know they were having problems?

    • Ross: She's my ex-wife. If she were marrying a guy, none of you'd expect me to be there.
      Joey: Hey, if she were marrying a guy, she'd be, like, the worst lesbian ever!

    • Chandler: I think lambs are scarier. Otherwise, the movie would have been called Silence of the Ducks.

    • Minister: We are here to join this woman and this woman in holy matrimony.
      Phoebe: (Possessed by Mrs. Adelman) Now I've seen everything! (As Herself) Oh my God, she's gone!

  • NOTES (5)


    • Joey: It just seems so futile. You know? All these women, and nothing! I feel like Superman without my powers, you know? I have the cape, and yet I cannot fly.

      Superman is a comic book superhero, originally created by American writer Jerry Siegel and Canadian artist Joe Shuster and published by DC Comics.

    • Phoebe: (Possessed by Mrs. Adelman) I know who it is you remind me of. Evelyn Durmer. Course that's before she got the lousy face-lift. Now she looks like Soupy Sales.
      Joey: Pheebs, who's Evelyn Durmer?
      Phoebe: (As herself) I don't know. Who's Soupy Sales?

      Soupy Sales is an American comedian and actor, who was awarded a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame.

    • Phoebe: (Possessed by Mrs. Adelman) Talk about crap. Try listening to Stella Neidman tell the story about her and Rod Steiger for the hundredth time.

      Rod Steiger was an American Academy Award-winning actor.

    • Chandler: (Singing to Ross) Who's the bitterest man in the living room? The bitterest man in the living room? Hi, neighbor.

      Chandler is imitating Fred Rogers performing the theme song from the children's television program Mister Rogers' Neighborhood , although he has altered the lyrics.

    • Chandler: Well, of course, lambs are scarier. Otherwise the movie would've been called Silence of the Ducks.

      The Silence of the Lambs is a thriller film, starring Anthony Hopkins and Jodi Foster, about the fictional cannibal Hannibal Lector, who helps FBI-agent Clarice Starling to find another serial murderer.

    • Rachel: (After hearing that her mother wants to be more like her by getting a divorce) Well, couldn't she just have copied my haircut?

      Jennifer Aniston's (Rachel's) haircut was one of the most copied haircuts in the world at the time.