Rites of passage are an important part in the life of any person, it doesn't matter if its Hot Pie's first job away from Arya and Gendry, Arya's first bread in the shape of a wolf, Podrick's first time ever, the first cry of Gilly's baby or Jon's first sight of what the White Walkers consider "art".
Rites of passage are not to take lightly, it define the person you grow up to be, whether that is a screw up like Robb's uncle, a Queen like Daenerys or a prisoner afraid of wolves like Martyn Lannister. Rites of passage can make you weaker or stronger, can make you a man or a woman, but they can't change who you really are, it can only reveal what was underneath: whether its a woman willing to die to keep her virtue or the man who unwillingly loses his hand trying to protect her.





