Gilmore Girls

Season 7 Episode 3

Lorelai's First Cotillion

Aired Tuesday 8:00 PM Oct 10, 2006 on The WB
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When Richard and Emily have no real reaction to the news of her break up with Luke, Lorelai suddenly realizes that most of her emotional life has been based on doing and feeling the opposite of whatever her parents want. Later, when Michel forces Lorelai to attend Emily’s beautiful cotillion dance, Lorelai discovers that some things her parents wanted for her weren’t really that terrible. Rory has a tough time making her long-distance relationship with Logan work. After taking Rory out for a father/daughter dinner, Christopher makes a startling confession to Lorelai.moreless

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  • Lorelai is questioning if she is driven by her parents dissaproval.

    This was the best episode this season! It was about time for Lorelai to really question her relationship with her parents, and the reasons she does the things she does. Her parents having no reactions to her break-up with Luke makes her realise that she is very driven by her parents dissaproval, and she finally opens up to trying out things she never would have. She unwillingly attends a cotillion with Michel, and actually enjoys it. And when Christopher, in a heartbreaking scene, finally tells her that he is in love with her, that she is the one, and that he will wait for her to realise it too, the idea of them being together isn't as farfetched as it normally would be...

    I loved the way Zack reacted to the big news of Lane's pregnancy. He just blamed it on Brian... :-) But when they finally talked about it they just realised they were both really scared. What a fantastic scene... :-)moreless
  • Lorelai and Rory attend the first Friday Night dinner of the season, and learn that Emily is in charge of this year's club cotillion for young girls.

    Lorelai and Rory attend the first Friday Night dinner of the season, and learn that Emily is in charge of this year's club cotillion for young girls. Lorelai realises, after telling her parents about her break up with Luke, that perhaps every move she's made in her life has been in direct, intentional contrast to what her mother wanted her to do. Rory's transatlantic love life is not going all that well. Paris suggests that she try phone or text sex to keep the spark alive. Rory, naturally, goes to the bookstore to read up on how to be sexy. Lane finally tells Zach about her pregnancy, and after a brief period of denial, they both admit that they're freaked out about their impending parenthood. Christopher shows up at Lorelai's and admits that he's in love with her and that he'll wait for her forever. After thinking it over, she calls him and opens the door to a potential relationship.moreless
  • Better episode than the previous two. Nice to see Emily and Richard Gilmore again.

    well, i think this epidose was ok, although it´s far from being my favorite. i think the last two episodes were not that good, but this one i liked. it was nice all those scenes with lorelai and emily and how lorelai remembered her childhood and how she grew with her parents, i liked the little girl in the cotillion that was like lorelai when she was little. i think it´s getting kind of boring the relationship between logan and rory. it´s great the storyline for lane and zack, i hope they will be ok with the baby and everything.moreless
  • Lorelai attends her mother's cotillion after realizing something really important, Lane finally tells Zach she's pregnant and Chris makes the most romantic and beautiful confession to Lor!

    I love this season! I love new Lorelai, I love how Chris is back in Gilmore Girls! It doesn't even matter how boring Rory is, everything else's so great!!!

    Like myself, Emily and Richard have no special reaction to the news that Lorelai & Luke have broken up. Which makes Lorelai think that maybe all the stuff her parents wanted for her is actually good, not dreadful like she tought till now. And many things were good! Lorelai's new "things" and how she makes this new decisions and choices were great, and I loved how she's finally moving on. Also, the cotillion was beautiful and Michel, hilarious as ever.

    Lane finally tells Zach she's pregnant and they both freak out. It was so sweet! They have so much chemistry and are going to be great, hilarious parents!

    I can't stand Rory anymore. The only things she does is engage in few conversations with Lorelai, Lane, Luke and Chris, and miss Logan. Come on, girl, do something!

    And finally, Christopher and Lorelai meet againg after their night together. And he makes the most romantic confession ever, saying that he loves her and will wait until they're both 80 for her to figure them out. It was SO sweet!!!!!! I love Chris so much! At the end, Lor calls him, but we never find out how that ends! Can't wait for the next one!moreless
  • This was an amazing show just like every other Gilmore Girls episode. I loed watching it and i couldnt believe that any show could make me so obsessed with a television series. It could not have better acting from amazing Lauren Graham. Shes outstandingmoreless

    This was an amazing show just like every other Gilmore Girls episode. I loed watching it and i couldnt believe that any show could make me so obsessed with a television series. If it werent for Lauren Graham, the show would still be great but not as amazing as it is with her. She is my favorite actress ever. How does she still have no emmy or why is she not as famous as she should be. it just seems insane to. She is better than Alexis but alexis is still a good counterpart. They have great chemistry together.moreless
Alexis Bledel

Alexis Bledel

Rory Gilmore

Edward Herrmann

Edward Herrmann

Richard Gilmore

Kelly Bishop

Kelly Bishop

Emily Gilmore

Lauren Graham

Lauren Graham

Lorelai Gilmore

Liza Weil

Liza Weil

Paris Geller (Episodes 22 - , recurring previously)

Yanic Truesdale

Yanic Truesdale

Michel Gerard

James Hornbeck

James Hornbeck


Guest Star

Hannah Leigh Dworkin

Hannah Leigh Dworkin

Charlotte Courtwright

Guest Star

Jennifer Rhodes

Jennifer Rhodes

Beverly Courtwright

Guest Star

David Sutcliffe

David Sutcliffe

Christopher Hayden

Recurring Role

John Cabrera

John Cabrera


Recurring Role

Liz Torres

Liz Torres

Miss Patty

Recurring Role

Trivia, Notes, Quotes and Allusions


  • TRIVIA (11)

    • At the cotillion when Charlotte introduces Lorelai to her grandparents, you can make out on the stage in the background that the musicians begin to stop playing their instruments, however, the instrumental music does not stop.

    • When Charlotte is making the drinks at the drinks table, the camera cuts to a close-up of Lorelai and Rory sitting on the couch and you can clearly see in the background that Charlotte has disappeared.

    • Emily said to Charlotte that Lorelai had never attended a cotillion. This is not true because in the season 1 episode, "Presenting Lorelai Gilmore", Chris told Dean that he knew how to tie a bow tie because of the many cotillions that he and Lorelai attended. We do know, however, that Lorelai never had a "coming out" party.

    • Rory teaches one of her tutorees about analogies. However, there are no analogies on the New SAT.

    • Every season, not counting the 5th one, Lorelai has the leading role of an episode title:
      1st season: "The Lorelais' First Day at Chilton"; "The Third Lorelai"
      2nd season: "Presenting Lorelai Gilmore"; "It Should've Been Lorelai"; "Lorelai's Graduation Day"
      3rd season: "Lorelai Out of Water"
      4th season: "The Lorelais' First Day at Yale"; "The Incredible Shrinking Lorelais"; "The Reigning Lorelai"
      6th season: "New and Improved Lorelai"
      7th: "Lorelai's First Cotillion"; "Introducing Lorelai Planetarium"

    • This is the very first Gilmore Girls episode to date where Michel reacts with any kind of pleasure to a group of children--or to any other people, for that matter!

    • In the scene with Emily and the little girls at the Dragonfly Inn for the afternoon tea, Sookie makes tiny peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for the girls. This is quite a stretch from the season 4 episode "The Hobbit, the Sofa, and Digger Stiles," where Sookie and Lorelai organized the birthday party for the little kids, and Sookie cooked a kitchen full of gourmet foods instead of the "kid-friendly" stuff. (although, that was before Sookie had two kids of her own)

    • In the scene in the bookstore, the title of the book on top of the stack in front of Lane is Pregnancy Sucks. This is an actual book, written by Joanne Kimes and Sanford A. Tisherman. The full title is Pregnancy Sucks: What to Do When Your Miracle Makes You Miserable.

    • In the finale, Emily said they would be gone for two months which is why they invited Caroline and Christopher over for dinner. Yet in this episode, Lorelai says it's only been three weeks since Friday night dinner.

    • When Lorelai and Rory are having Friday night dinner with Emily and Richard, Lorelai tells them that she and Luke broke up. After they don't react, Lorelai gets upset and asks if they want to say anything to her about it. Emily looks at Richard and asks him if he wants to add anything. In this scene, he has a glass in his hand, in the next scene, it's a spoon.

    • In this episode, Luke now has a black baseball hat instead of the blue one he received from Lorelai in the season 1 episode 'Forgiveness and Stuff.' He has a new hat because he is trying to forget Lorelai and get rid of everything he gave her.

  • QUOTES (17)

    • (Lorelai and Rory are standing outside the Gilmore house)
      Lorelai: Hey, punch me in the stomach.
      Rory: What?
      Lorelai: Real quick, jab jab. Not too hard. Just enough to cause internal bleeding.
      Rory: That sounds pretty hard.
      Lorelai: Yeah, true. Plus, internal bleeding is internal, which means it can't be proven. And unless my mother sees blood, there's no way she's gonna let you take me to the hospital. You're right you're gonna have to punch me in the face. Real quick, jab jab.
      Rory: I am not going to punch you in the face.
      Lorelai: Why? I'll heal. I'd much rather spend the night in the emergency room getting 8 to 10 stitches than go in there for dinner. Plus, it'll give me a groovy scar. I've always wanted a groovy scar.
      Rory: Mom.
      Lorelai: It'd be such a great conversation piece. "Where did you get that groovy scar?" "Oh, my daughter dropkicked me for no apparent reason." She's totally psycho.

    • Michel: Take me.
      Lorelai: Oh, Michel! (seductively joking)
      Michel: Take me to the Cotillion.
      Lorelai: Oh.

    • Lorelai: (to Charlotte) You don't have to jump off the Empire State Building to know it's gonna hurt!

    • Michel: (about the little girls coming over for afternoon tea) Oh, I love them! They're like little Madame Alexander dolls come to life!

    • (Rory is sitting up in her bed staring at her cell phone. She picks up the house phone and starts dialing. The scene switches over to Logan sleeping.)
      Logan: Ace?
      Rory: Hey, how's it going?
      Logan: It's 4:45 in the morning. Are you OK? Did something happen?
      Rory: Not really....I sent you a text message yesterday.
      Logan: Yeah, I know I texted you back.
      Rory: No you didn't.
      Logan: (smiling) Yes I did. Check your phone.
      Rory: I don't have any missed calls...oh, wait. There's a little envelope thing in the bottom corner.
      Logan: Get out of town.
      Rory: It went directly to my saved messages. Why would it do that?
      Logan: I couldn't tell ya.
      Rory: (reading the text message) Oh wow! Woah...yours is really good. (a little embarrassed) OK, well sorry to wake you. I'll talk to you in a few hours.
      Logan: Woah, wait! Where do you think you're going?
      Rory: To sleep.
      Logan: No, I don't think so. You woke me up. Text me back.
      Rory: You want me to text you back?
      Logan: You started this.
      Rory: I know....but I don't have my books with me.
      Logan: You don't need your books Ace.
      Rory: Logan...
      Logan: I miss you Rory.
      Rory: You do?
      Logan: (smiling) Yeah.
      Rory: I miss you too. I can't text you with you on the phone.
      Logan: So hang up.
      Rory: I'm gonna hang up now.
      Logan: OK
      Rory: OK...bye.
      Logan: Bye.

    • Chris: I can't just sit here and have coffee with you.
      Lorelai: Okay...
      Chris: I love you.

    • Christopher: (to Lorelai) I love you. I know the other night didn't mean for you what it did for me, but I haven't stopped thinking about it since it happened, and just not because it was great--which it was--but because it was right. It was so right, Lor, and you might not see that right now, but I do, and if I have to wait until we're both 80 years old for you to see it, then I'll wait. I'm not going anywhere. This is it for me. You're it for me, and I can't pretend to feel any less than I do, I....I just can't.

    • Paris: (to Rory) Okay, I'm not your boss anymore. We can do five minutes of friend time.

    • Lorelai: (jokingly to Charlotte) Are you going to have a drink too, or are you driving tonight?
      Charlotte: Oh, Lorelai, I'm only 10!

    • Rory: Well, I'm sure you'll have fun at your cotillion.
      Charlotte: I am very much looking forward to it.
      Lorelai: Oh, don't get too excited. Cotillions aren't fun parties; they're boring rituals that are used to train a whole new generation of snobs.
      Emily: And how exactly would you know? Lorelai never attended a cotillion.
      Lorelai: You don't have to jump off the Empire State Building to know it's gonna hurt.

    • Charlotte: Did you ever attend a cotillion?
      Rory: No, I never attended a cotillion, but I did have a coming-out party.
      Lorelai: And I totally support her decision. She shouldn't have to hide her love for women.

    • Lorelai: (to Charlotte after Emily makes a rude comment to her) Now's your chance. Get out while you still can! I can show you all the good escape routes.
      Charlotte: Mrs. Gilmore warned me you'd be full of smart remarks!

    • Rory: (to Charlotte) You know, Charlotte's Web is one of my favorite books.
      Lorelai: Yeah, a story about talking pigs and spiders. What could be better?

    • Lorelai: (about the 10-year-old little girl who answered the door at Richard and Emily's) Weird.
      Rory: So weird.
      Lorelai: That's a child, right?
      Rory: I'm pretty sure.
      Lorelai: Wow. Maybe Mom ran out of adults who will work for her.

    • Lorelai: Hey! Punch me in the stomach.
      Rory: What?
      Lorelai: Real quick, jab jab. Not to hard, just enough to cause a little internal bleeding!
      Rory: Sounds pretty hard.

    • Rory: Are you enjoying your breakfast?
      Lorelai: I don't know if I like Pop-Tarts.
      Rory: Did you fall on your head while you were sleeping?
      Lorelai: I don't know. Do I like this? Is this something I like?
      Rory: So you fell on your head and now you have a specific amnesia, is that it?
      Lorelai: I mean, last night I was dreading mom and dad's reaction to the break-up. Right?
      Rory: Right, dread, dread, I remember.
      Lorelai: Then they didn't react, not one bit. And it's almost like the absence of their reaction was worse than any freak-out they could have had.
      Rory: Ok. Sure.
      Lorelai: Then I thought why? Why do I care if they freak out? I mean what do I get out of it?
      Rory: Uh huh.
      Lorelai: And then I thought maybe their freak outs are like some kind of compass for me, like I know I'm doing what I want to do if it freaks them out, and then I thought, what if I don't wanna do what I wanna do because I wanna do it. but because they don't want me to.
      Rory: Huh?
      Lorelai: I mean, what if I don't like what I like because I like it, but because my mother doesn't like it, and doesn't want me to like it. What if I don't actually like what I like - the music that I like, or the movies, or the clothes, or the men??? What if I don't like what I seem to like?
      Rory: Ah! Hence the Pop-Tart.
      Lorelai: Yes, hence. I can remember the first time I had a Pop-Tart. It was at my friend Erica Catcha's house and she said do you want a Pop-Tart, and I knew that my mother would recoil at the very idea of me. I could just picture her - A Pop-Tart??? And so I had one. And I opened the little silver wrapper, and I took a bite, and I thought nothing had ever tasted so good. I thought it tasted like... freedom... It tasted like I was my own person. The Pop-Tart tasted like freedom and rebellion and independence.
      Rory: Wow. That's some Pop-Tart. What flavor was that?
      Lorelai: But now I think... I don't know if I like Pop-Tarts. What if I don't like Pop-Tarts. Would I have liked Pop-Tarts if Richard and Emily had served me Pop-Tarts on a silver platter and demanded I eat every bit? I don't know.

    • Lane: I'm pregnant.
      Zach: With a baby?

  • NOTES (6)


    • Rory: Well it's supposed to be metaphorical and evocative. It's Henry Miller.
      Lane: Henry miller has better stuff than that. Believe me that is not why they banned his books.

      Henry Miller was an American writer and, to a lesser extent, painter. He is known for breaking with existing literary forms and developing a new sort of "novel" that is a mixture of novel, autobiography, social criticism, philosophical reflection, surrealist free association, and mysticism. A small number of his works contain detailed accounts of sexual experiences, and his books did much to free the discussion of sexual subjects in American writing from both legal and social restrictions. He continued to write novels that were banned in the United States on grounds of obscenity.

    • Rory: but Helen Keller and Stephen Hawking could have a more connected conversation.

      Helen Keller and Stephen Hawking both have disabilities that make it hard for them to interact with other people. Stephen lost the ability of speech, and Helen was deaf and blind. Books were written about the both of them, Helen wrote her own.

    • Rory: Charlotte's Web was one of my favorite books.

      Charlotte's Web is a popular children's book written by E.B. White.

    • Cotillion can be:

      1. a formal ball given esp. for debutantes.
      2. a lively French social dance originating in the 18th century, consisting of a variety of steps and figures and performed by couples.
      3. any of various dances resembling the quadrille.
      4. music arranged or played for these dances.
      5. a formalized dance for a large number of people, in which a head couple leads the other dancers through elaborate and stately figures.