Grey's Anatomy

Season 6 Episode 19

Sympathy for the Parents

Aired Thursday 8:00 PM Apr 01, 2010 on ABC



  • Trivia

  • Quotes

    • Derek: I don't want you to be alone. If anything should happen to me... I don't want it to just be you.
      Meredith: Well, we would make pretty babies.
      Derek: So you're thinking about it.
      Meredith: Oh, I'm thinking about it. (Derek kisses her) But we're not making babies right now.
      Derek: We're practicing. But it's very important to practice.

    • Owen: Are you scared of me?
      Cristina: I don't want to be.
      Owen (long pause): I have to go back to Dr. Wyatt.

    • Arizona: You ever wonder if mostiurizer really works? I mean I'm a doctor and I haven't heard of half this stuff. Dimethicone? No idea. Distearyldi... Hmm. Yeah, I- I can't even pronounce that, so... (laughs)
      Callie: I wanna have a baby. And I can't talk about lotion or pound cake or anything else because you don't wanna have a baby and I do.
      Arizona: So... we're gonna talk about it.
      Callie: Yeah. We're gonna talk about it.

    • Meredith: Where's Aaron?
      Alex: He went back to Iowa.
      Meredith: You let him drive after surgery?
      Alex: I'm not his dad. He's got my number.
      Meredith: You know you're nothing like your father, right?
      Alex: You're nothing like your mother. You're good. You'd be good. You'd be a good mom.

    • Lexie: He's my sister's husband.
      April: Excuse me?
      Lexie: Don't play stupid!
      April: I'm not playing stupid! I am stupid! I'm stupid and I'm humiliated. And I'm sorry. I just... I've never felt anything. I've never felt like this before. So if you just please forget what you saw, because I promise you will never see it again, and we-- we can just go back to being doctors. Please.
      Lexie: This day sucks. I hate this day.

    • Teddy (about Owen): He has been through so much.
      Cristina: It's not like he talks about it.
      Teddy: He can't. I can't talk about it either most days. But... Owen has it worse than me. Has it worse. He's triggered. Right now, he's triggered. And his triggers might never go away. I mean, they'll get better over time, if you give him time, which you should, because he is in love with you. He just needs time.
      Cristina: He needs therapy. I keep telling him to go to Dr. Wyatt.
      Teddy: No, no, don't do that. He won't go if you tell him to. He's... He's very... He's a guy that way. A man. Don't ever tell him what to do. Just... Just tell him how you feel.

    • Lexie: I told a patient's husband that she was fine. That her surgery went perfectly. And the next thing we know, she has a stroke and we are supposed to just unplug her. I know that I am supposed to toughen up, I know that I am supposed to not care, but how... How do you not care?
      Mark: It's the hardest part of the job. The very hardest part.
      Lexie: How did you do it? How did you learn?
      Mark: I'm still learning.

    • Meredith: Oh, uh, this is Alex's brother. Aaron, this is Arizona Robbins.
      Arizona: Nice to meet you. How come I did't meet you at the wedding?
      Meredith: Actually, Dr. Robbins...
      Arizona: Oh, that's right, no one's family came. Last minute switcheroon and all that.
      Aaron: What wedding?
      Arizona: Alex and Izzie's.
      Meredith: No one's.
      Aaron: Alex got married?
      Arizona: I'm just gonna go use the computer over there. Bye!
      Aaron: He got married and he didn't even call us?
      Lexie: No, it sounds weird, but it was totally a spur-of-the-moment thing. You know, because of the cancer...
      Aaron: Alex has cancer?
      Meredith: Lexie...
      Lexie: No, Izzie has cancer.
      Aaron: Who's Izzie?
      Lexie: Alex's wife. But she's not really his wife anymore. It's really... I wouldn't worry about it.
      Aaron: They got divorced?
      Lexie: No, but they... She left, and then, you know, she came back, but he didn't really think it was the right thing...
      Meredith: Lexie! Stop talking.

    • Cristina (to Teddy): You wanna have kids?
      Callie: You don't?
      Cristina: Have you met me? No!

    • Alex: Dr. Bailey, you got a second?
      Bailey: I do. I have a second which is why I'm spending it with my child. (takes Tucker's hand) Say bye-bye, Dr. Karev. Yeah, bye-bye.
      Alex (sits down): Dr. Bailey, my little brother is here with looks like an umbilical hernia.
      Bailey (to Tucker): I didn't know Dr. Karev had a little brother. Did you know Dr. Karev had a little brother?
      Alex: He has no money, he doesn't have insurance. So...
      Bailey: Mommy sees where this is going.
      Alex: He'd have to have you perform the surgery pro-bono.
      Bailey (laughs): Did you hear that funny word? (laughs) Pro-bono. Mommy's got a mountain of surgeries to schedule. Does she have time to do free surgery?
      Alex: I'll schedule your surgeries for the next... week if you want.
      Bailey (to Tucker): Do you think Mommy should fix up Dr. Karev's brother and make him feel all better?
      Alex: Two weeks. A month.
      Bailey: Alright! I will meet Dr. Karev's brother in a half hour. Say bye-bye. Bye-bye. (Alex leaves) I would have done it anyway, but he just kept talking, didn't he?

    • Cristina: Owen's still in his dark place and he's still not talking. So I turned off my cell in case he wanted to say something, which he didn't. I hate men. They're stupid.
      Meredith: Derek asked me to have a baby with him this morning.
      Cristina: Really stupid.

    • Cristina: Evil spawn has a brother?
      Meredith: Aaron, Cristina Yang.
      Aaron: Nice to meet you, Dr. Yang. I'm Aaron Karev.
      Cristina; Oh, my God, you're so nice. He's so... Why can't you be nice like your brother, angel spawn?
      Alex: Why can't you?
      Cristina: Fair enough.

    • Arizona (about Owen): He's always so grumpy.
      Teddy: He's going though something and Cristina doesn't get it. She can't, which isn't her fault. But I do get it, and... I can't be there for him, and that's... That's really hard.

    • Arizona: Life changing?
      Teddy: Life changing, earth shattering, whatever. The point is, he's a legand for a reason. I mean, he has skills that I never even knew existed. It was like there was a party going on.
      Arizona: A party in your panties. (they laugh)

    • Callie: So, how'd the date go with Teddy?
      Mark: I don't know if I'd call it a date. Doesn't going on a date imply actually going somewhere?
      Callie (laughs): Oh, shut up. You had sex?
      Arizona (walks up): Hey, guys!
      Callie: Hey. (laughs awkwardly, Mark notices the silence between them)
      Arizona: Oh! Pound cake. (laughs) I love pound cake. Rich, buttery pound cake. Yum. Pound cake. (laughs nervously, Callie is silent) Pound cake?
      Callie: Oh, I'm good. Thanks. (Arizona walks off)
      Mark: So, what exactly constitutes a pound cake?
      Callie: It's a yellow cake. Kinda heavy.
      Mark: Come on. Code for something dirty, right? Like, you eat her pound cake, she eats your pound cake.
      Callie: No.
      Mark: Oh, please, tell me it's dirty. Because otherwise, that was the most boring conversation that I've ever been a part of.
      Callie: We are talking about pound cake because I want a kid and she doesn't. And we're not talking about that.
      Mark: How long are you two not gonna have that conversation? A year? Two years? Five?
      Callie: Wow. So... you and Teddy ate pound cake together?
      Mark: You're changing the subject.
      Callie: You like how I did that? So how was it?
      Mark: Mind-blowing. I pounded her cake. She pounded mine. (Callie laughs) Excellent pound-caking.
      Callie: Pound-caking is not a thing.
      Mark (smiles): Whatever. I blew her mind.

    • Meredith: Alex? So, okay, Izzie's not here and Cristina's not answering her phone and I have a thing, so I need you to be a girl for me.
      Alex: What'd he do? You want me to kick his ass?
      Meredith: He wants me to have a baby.
      Alex: So you do want me to kick his ass?
      Meredith: Alex.
      Alex: Do you wanna have a baby?
      Meredith; A baby doesn't want me. I had the worst mother in the world. I would be the worst mother in the world.
      Alex: Izzie wants a divorce. She sent the papers. The offical papers.
      Meredith: You want me to kick her ass?
      Derek (walks in): Hey, Alex... (sees Mer) Hey.
      Meredith: He's being a girl for me.
      Alex: Dude, it's true.
      Derek: Right. There's a guy downstrairs who says he's your brother. Do you want me to send him up here to the bathroom since this seems to be where you receive your visitors?

    • Meredith: Well, you're looking all thoughtful.
      Derek: I was just thinking of how pretty you are. (Mer smiles) And how pretty our children will be. (Mer's smile fades)
      Meredith: Children? Like, multiple?
      Derek: Child. Let's just start with one and see how it goes.
      Meredith: You wanna start?
      Derek: I'm just sayin' you're pretty. That's all I'm saying.

    • Meredith (closing voiceover): It's the most important job in the world. You probably should need a license to do it, but then most of us wouldn't even pass the written exam. Some people are naturals. They were born to do it. Some have other gifts. But the good news is biology dictates you don't have to do it alone. You can waste your whole life wondering, but the only way to find out what kind of parent you'd be is to finally stop talking about it and just do it.

    • Meredith (opening voiceover): Psychologists believe that every aspect of our lives, all our thought processes & behavior patterns, are the direct result of our relationship to our parents. That every relationship that we have is really just another version of that first relationship. It's just us trying over & over again to get it right.

    • Aaron: (about Alex) He protected me my whole life, you know? He kicked my dad's ass so hard, the son of a bitch never came back. I always thought he did that for me, but maybe he just likes throwing punches.
      Meredith: Aaron, I like you, I do, but you can't talk about my friend that way, okay?
      Bailey: (puts a breathing mask on him) I need you to count backwards from ten for me, okay?
      Aaron: Okay. Ten, nine, eight... (drifts to sleep)
      Bailey: That's it. A junkie dad, a crackpot mom, and somehow, Karev still became a doctor. I'm not easily impressed, but I'm impressed.

    • Aaron: (waking up from surgery) You don't have to be here. You can go.
      Alex: No, I'm just making sure you don't croak, and then I'm out of here.
      Aaron: You...saved my ass every day when we were kids. You were a better parent than Mom and Dad put together. Every day, I feel bad for Amber that it's just me, instead of you. What happened to you, man?
      Alex: I send you money every month. I send Mom her meds. You want that to stop? I am this close to being a real surgeon. I can't. I-- I can't be in that and do this. I can't.
      Aaron: Amber's a good kid. She turned out okay. You'd like her.
      Alex: You turned out okay too, Aaron.
      Aaron: I'm sorry your wife left you, or got cancer, or whatever.
      Alex: Thanks.

    • Derek: Mr. Clark, I'm deeply sorry for your... for your loss.
      Mr. Clark: No, no. Don't speak about my wife as if she's dead. She's still here. She could wake up.
      Derek: She's not gonna wake up, Mr. Clark. Not with the brain damage she's suffered.
      Mr. Clark: You don't know that.
      Richard: Mr. Clark, if we don't obey your wife's directive, if we ignore her wishes--
      Mr. Clark: She signed that form three years ago--
      Derek: Her health will deteriorate. She'll lose body mass. She'll have no immune system.
      She'll require round-the-clock care, and that can become very expensive very quickly.
      Mr. Clark: I don't care about that.
      Derek: It will be no life for either of you, and that's why your wife signed the advance directive. She didn't want to have to live her life this way, and she didn't want you to live your life this way, either.
      Mr. Clark: Don't you speak for my wife! Don't you dare speak for my wife!
      Derek: I'm sorry, Mr. Clark, but the ethics committee has reviewed your case. We are bound by law to obey her wishes.
      Mr. Clark: If you unplug my wife, you'll be killing her.
      Derek: (long pause) I'm sorry. You should, uh, take all the time you need to call your family, to say good-bye.
      Mr. Clark: There's no one to call. We don't have any family. It's just us. We didn't have any kids. It's just me.

    • Callie: When's the best time to have kids?
      Bailey: The best time to have kids is never. What? You asked.
      Callie: Well, yeah, but--
      Bailey: They cry. All the time. Nonstop. They never sleep. They're terrible conversationalists, and they take everything you've got. All your time, all your focus, all your patience, all your sleep. Everything. And you've got nothing left for you.
      Callie: Wow.
      Bailey: But this morning, little Tucker woke me up by putting his nose up against mine, his cold little nose, and he goes "Wake up", and he got the K sound in wake. Wake up. See, up until today, he'd say D instead of K. "Wade up". Girl, him nailing that K's the pride I felt, the irrational, unbridled joy. Well, it's at least at good as any whipple. Look, if you're waiting for the perfect time to have kids, you're never gonna have kids.

    • Aaron: Dude, how could you not have told me you got married?
      Alex: (to Lexie) You told him?
      Lexie: No, no, it wasn't me. Well, some of it was, but it--
      Meredith: It was Arizona Robbins, and it was an accident.
      Aaron: Yeah, she figured your own brother would already know that you married somebody, but--
      Alex: See, this is why I didn't want to tell you, because I knew you'd make a big deal.
      Aaron: It is a big deal! You get married on a spur of the moment. You walk out on your wife.
      Alex: I did not walk out on my wife! She walked out on me. She walked out!
      Aaron: Do you have any idea what Mom's gonna do when she finds out? She's gonna go off her meds.
      Alex: She's not gonna do anything, because you're not gonna tell her, all right? You're gonna get your free surgery, you're gonna get back in your truck, and you're gonna get the hell out of here!
      Aaron: Fine. You know what? I don't need your free surgery. I'll see you.
      Meredith: Aaron, stop.
      Alex: You're not going anywhere.
      Aaron: I don't need your crap! You walk out on us, you walk out on your wife. Like father, like son.

    • Bailey: (to Alex's brother, who has a hernia) How is it your brother is a surgeon, and you waited months to take care of this?
      Aaron: I don't know. Karevs are tough. I guess five years in foster care will do that to ya.
      Bailey: Foster care?
      Meredith: You're all foster children?
      Aaron: Well, me and Amber were in and out, but Alex, he had, like, seventeen different foster homes in five years.
      Meredith: So Alex was a foster child?
      Aaron: Yeah, you know, because my mom was, you know, it was before they had all the meds that they have today, and she was, I guess she was doing her best, but my dad, he...wasn't a good guy, and he was, you know...whatever, and so Alex, he got shipped around a lot, and he was a pretty rough kid if you didn't know him, so people didn't like to keep him. Then he ended up in juvie.
      Bailey: J-juvenile detention?
      Aaron: Yeah, 'cause my mom, she, sometimes she'd forget to buy food, so...he was good, though. People wouldn't have even known he was stealing anything if it hadn't been for the video cameras.
      Bailey: How old was he?
      Aaron: Mmm, eleven. Maybe twelve.
      Alex: (walks in) Hey, what do we do in 2807? (room goes silent) Dude, are you talking crap in here?
      Aaron: No.
      Alex: Dude, I work here!
      Bailey: So go to work. Check the chest tube in 2807. Go!
      Alex: Shut it, Aaron. (leaves)
      Bailey: So, what happened after juvie?
      Meredith: Dr. Bailey, I don't think that Alex would--
      Bailey: Mind your business. Aaron. After juvie?

  • Notes

    • International Episode Titles:
      Czech Republic: Smrt paní Clarkové (The Death of Mrs. Clark)

    • Music Featured In This episode:
      1. You're Not Stubborn by Two Door Cinema Club
      2. Remember Us by Aqualung
      3. I Found You by Luluc

    • Original International Air Dates:
      Canada: April 1, 2010 on CTV
      Latin America: April 12, 2010 on Sony Entertainment Television
      Sweden: May 12, 2010 on Kanal 5
      Australia: May 25, 2010 on Channel 7
      United Kingdom: June 3, 2010 on Living TV
      Germany: September 8, 2010 on ProSieben
      Norway: December 14, 2010 on TV2 Bliss
      Czech Republic: October 24, 2011 on Prima LOVE

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