Grey's Anatomy

Season 3 Episode 23

The Other Side of This Life (2)

Aired Thursday 8:00 PM May 03, 2007 on ABC
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Meredith works on her relationship with Susan and Thatcher. Cristina has to deal with her mother and Burke's. Alex continues to tend to Jane Doe/Ava. Meredith and Derek's relationship has a problem that needs resolution quick. Addison sees her god-daughter which leads to a job offer outside of Seattle. Derek has to perform surgery. Burke has a reservation about marrying Cristina. Many new people guest star in the course of Addison's road trip to California. Addison considers moving to be closer to her old med school friends until she discovers that drama she wishes to leave behind isn't exclusive to Seattle. Her friends who she thought had it all, are divorced. A pregnant woman must discover who the father of her child is.moreless

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  • The Other Side of This Life parts one and two...

    Addison goes on a road trip to California and meets up with her old med school friends. What does this mean for a GREY'S ANATOMY episode? A total waste!!!

    As far as I'm concerned, this was such a waste of an episode! Basically all it did, was establish that Addison now has a job offer away from Seattle Grace. This of coarse is because she will be in her own tv show! So, we met the rest of the cast on her show! Too many people to introduce into a "flash forward" episode! And that bit about her could be love life? PUH-LEASE!! Would you date that guy if you could have Mark Sloan? I think not!!

    And then back at Seattle Grace, the bits that we did get to see, sucked! Nothing happened! Except of coarse that Meredith's step mother died. And I still can't figure out WHY she had to die... Does anyone ELSE know?

    This episode sucked.moreless
  • A total 'non episode' of Grey's. I half expected (hoped)that Addison would 'wake up' in the shower at the end.

    A classic of how to loose your audience. What a waste of time introducing all these characters that we will never meet again (I hope!). 'Grey's' only got a few minutes of this two hours - It should never have been allowed out of the studio and onto the the air - production incompetence. This double episode takes two hours to tell us that Addison is barren - it could have been covered in an elevator ride. Maybe we will see the launch of a new show featuring the doctors showcased here but why oh why ruin Grey's in the proccess.

    footnote:- Now that 'Private Practice' has started to air, it can be seen that this double episode was nothing more than 'junk mail'. The producers hijacked two episodes of Grey's in an attempt to 'advertise' the new show. What a cheap and nasty trick to play on your audience. Maybe we should be pleased that Dr Addison Shepherd was not transfering to the Starship Enterprise or applying for a job with 'House' on his new show - now that would have been interesting. (Bailey treating a Borg, Meridith falling for Greg ??)moreless
  • A little better than 03x22

    I have to say that this episode was not wat I expected. I thought it would suck as 03x22"the other side of this life(1) did" (and how!). PP showed a little drama. Still, not enough!

    Even though I didn't like they killed Susan and Thatcher was acting like a newborn, I think it's a good move from the writters to add more trouble to this plot. GA parts were a little better. The kiss, the tension at the end is all I can remember, honestly.

    PP parts were better, but I wouldn't ever tune in that show!


    I hope they don't do another spin-off about, I don't know, Mark's love life? Izzie's modeling? Afterlife time with Ellis Grey? The last episodes made a lot of damage (because they were not good enough!)moreless
  • Susan's condition gets a little more complicated. Cristina picks out a dress. George and Izzie have a moment. Alex's Jane Doe has a surgery. Addison is still experiencing life in L.A.moreless

    I thought the beginning of this episode was hilarious when the girls in L.A. were all obsessing over the young guy; i think is name was Dell? Dell later asks Naomi out but she tells him it's never going to happen. Sam reveals to Addison that he doesn't know why he left his wife. Addison gets acupuncture from Pete, who later in the episode kisses her. Sam tells Addison that Pete's wife died 8 years ago and that he can't committ to a woman that much. I thought the scene where Addison got acupuncture and had an emotional release was hilarious. Addison later starts talking to the "elevator god" and apologizes for yelling at it. I thought that was hilarious. Pete later tells her that the voice she's hearing is a security guard that watches the elevator through a camera. Burke and George are both having doubts about their marriages so they decided to turn to Bailey for advice. Bailey goes Nazi on them and stick them with each other to sort it out. Alex's Jane Doe's brain starts bleeding so they perform surgery on her which could possibly bring her memory back, where they discover that she can speak three different languages. The surgery didn't bring back her memory. Alex takes her outside and she askes him basically why he can't connect with someone he has feelings for but can be so good with her. Cristina picks out a wedding dress finally. Izzie tells George she doesn't want him to leave, and George kisses her. Izzie pushes him away and he says they can't do it. Izzie agrees and the elevator door opens, and Callie is standing out there just moments after Izzie and George kissed. Susan's condition has a little complication so the team decides to give her antibiotics. She later becomes septic and Grey and the team have to rush her to the O.R. where she ultimately winds up dying. When Grey tells her father he slaps her and basically blames her for Susan's death. That's got to be hard for him, losing Ellis and then Susan. I thought this might bring Meredith and her father closer together since they are really all each other have got accept for his daughters, but after seeing him slap her i don't know if that will happen. The episode ends with Meredith, Izzie and Alex getting drunk. Derek shows up but doesn't go inside. What the hell is he doing and what is going on with him? He's still sleeping in the trailor. I'm guessing those two are going to split up. Addison decides to come home, but the team in L.A. let's her know their job offer for her still stands. This was another great episode though it was emotional and a little hard to watch. It wasn't as hard as some others though.moreless
  • i cried again :D:D:D

    yeah!!!!!!!!! i couldnt believe mer's step mom died!!!!!! hurt man! i thought they were really starting to bond and everything and when mer came out of the operating room with that "she has died" face i was like....oh please let it not be true...and then she told her father that she had died and he hit her!!!!

    that was so unfair...i hated it i hated him slapping everyone had this :O face in their faces...cause really...his father really is awful....he cant control himself...yeah i know...your ex-wife died and now your actual wife dies...that must suck....but hey come on!! slap mer???

    and i looooooooooooove they're sooo cute man!!!!! and addison being with this new guy..i want her to be with mcsteamy and i want addison to be with alex....and i dunno which is better :Dmoreless
Ellen Pompeo

Ellen Pompeo

Dr. Meredith Grey

Sandra Oh

Sandra Oh

Dr. Cristina Yang

Katherine Heigl

Katherine Heigl

Dr. Isobel "Izzie" Stevens

Justin Chambers

Justin Chambers

Dr. Alex Karev

T.R. Knight

T.R. Knight

Dr. George O'Malley

Chandra Wilson

Chandra Wilson

Dr. Miranda Bailey

Raphael Sbarge

Raphael Sbarge


Guest Star

Bellamy Young

Bellamy Young


Guest Star

Becky Wahlstrom

Becky Wahlstrom


Guest Star

Elizabeth Reaser

Elizabeth Reaser

Jane Doe

Recurring Role

Mare Winningham

Mare Winningham

Susan Grey

Recurring Role

Jeff Perry

Jeff Perry

Thatcher Grey

Recurring Role

Trivia, Notes, Quotes and Allusions


  • TRIVIA (2)

    • When Addison is apologizing in the elevator for yelling at the elevator voice, the song playing is "Your Song" by Kate Walsh. Kate Walsh is also the name of the actress who plays Addison, but they are not the same person.

    • When Jane Doe/Ava speaks German she says: "Alex, ich brauche die nächste Karte. Das ist noch das Haus." ["Alex, I need the next card. This is still the house."]

  • QUOTES (24)

    • Addison: When no one else is around, the elevator kind of.... talks to me.
      Pete: Hi Tilly.
      Tilly: Hi Pete. (Addison looks confused)
      Pete: It's Tilly. She works security. Camera is right there.
      Addison: Oh, (laughs) hello Tilly.
      Tilly: Hi, I get my kicks whenever I can.
      Pete: You goin' home?
      Addison: Yeah.
      Pete: Did you get what you came for?
      Addison: I honestly, don't know.
      Pete: Do you want me to kiss you again?
      Addison: I think not.
      Pete: Because of the elevators where you come from? Those horny aprodisiac elevators?
      Addison (laughs): Yeah, that and I'm not interested.
      Pete: Oh. (long pause) You're interested. (gets off the elevator)

    • Addison: You're ugly and old.
      Naomi: I'll miss you too.

    • Alex: I got the limes.
      Izzie & Meredith: Limes!
      Alex: So, what're we drinking to this time?
      Izzie: Friends, crappy friends.
      Meredith: Family, crappy family. (they all take a shot)
      Alex: Again?
      Izzie & Meredith: Again.

    • Meredith (crying): We did... everything that we could.
      Thatcher (crying): You... you said that it was... really simple.... the simplest thing.
      Meredith: It was.
      Thatcher (slaps her): Shut the heck up. It was the hiccups.... She trusted you.... I trusted you. (Meredith turns and leaves)

    • George: Izzie, look...
      Izzie: Look, I don't want you to go, to Mercy West. I don't want you-- it's not fair. I know that we can't help what happened and I know that we didn't-- I stood in that bridal shop with your wife and I smiled and I talked and I felt like-- that's not fair. I don't want you to go to Mercy West because I'm losing my best friend and that's not fair. It's just not fair. (Izzie starts crying, and George turns to her and she cries on his shoulder. George nuzzles her face and they kiss, then George pushes her away)
      George: We can't.
      Izzie: I know. (the elevator doors open and Callie is there)

    • Burke: You know, all that I trust you crap, you've been pulling that on me since I was this high.
      Jane: Preston, language.
      Burke: No. I trust you is code for 'learn for your mistakes.' This is not a mistake.
      Jane: I never said that it was...
      Burke: Cristina never knows what is good for her. It's who she is.
      Jane: Preston.
      Burke: She hates change. I need, I have to and that's how it was with the dating and with the moving in.
      Jane: And I'm pleased for you.
      Burke: Look, I am going to make her happy, Momma. The wedding is s huge step and she's begin a great sport, you know why? Because she will be happy, someday.
      Jane: If you are so sure, why are you yelling at me?

    • Naomi: Hey, ex-best friend. Hey, ex-husband.
      Addison: You are drunk.
      Naomi: Ten more minutes and I start dancing and I require company. (she leaves)
      Sam: I don't think that I've ever seen her drunk before.
      Addison: Sam, did you cheat on her?
      Sam: Over the years there have been temptations, but no, I didn't.
      Addison: A lotta fighting?
      Sam: Hardly ever. Honestly, it was bad, what I did. I have no good reason, I woke up one day and I couldn't do it anymore. It wasn't even a choice. I had a thing you know, I'm burning it all down. I left her. And I don't know why. I don't know why. What kind of a person does that?
      Addison: Hell if I know. And I did it too.

    • Cooper: This is nice, huh?
      Violet: It is.
      Cooper: Yeah. (Cooper tries to kiss Violet, but she backs away)
      Violet: Oh, no. No, that is not nice.
      Cooper: What? You said 'Be a man.'
      Violet: I commend you, you're making an effort. But I am your friend. You can't be a man with your friend.

    • Addison: I'm starting to think that L.A is like New York, but with a beach.
      Pete: Why do you think we moved here? (Pete and Addison gaze at each other for a moment)
      Sam (clears his throat): Pete, isn't it time for some refills? (they hand him their glasses and he leaves) Okay, Pete is my friend, but...
      Addison: Why are you warning me about him? Is he a serial killer, is he a felon, what? Is he secretly my ex-husband's best friend?
      Sam: His wife died eight years ago.
      Addison: Now I feel shallow.
      Sam: He's a good guy, he just can't connect with women. You want someone who's gonna be there and Pete's not that guy.

    • Naomi: Dell, are you...
      Dell: Asking you out on a date? Yes.
      Naomi: You can't ask me out.
      Dell: Yes, I can.
      Naomi: No, you can't.
      Dell: I asked.
      Naomi: You''re a fetus. You could be my fetus.
      Dell: Coo-coo catchoo, Mrs. Robinson.
      Naomi: You can't use The Graduate as a defense. You can't use a movie that was made before you were born as a defense.

    • Callie: Hey. So, it's not going to be too weird, right? Me as a bridesmaid.
      Izzie: No, no. No, it's fine.
      Callie: 'Cause I can tell Cristina.
      Izzie: I said it's fine, really, no worries.
      Callie: So, did George tell you that he's thinking of transferring to Mercy West?
      Izzie: Yeah. Sounds like a good idea.
      Callie: So, we're fine?
      Izzie: We are. Fine. We're fine.

    • Burke: So, I hear Callie's going to be a bridesmaid.
      George: Yeah.
      Burke: Would you say that you were the one who need more urging to get married?
      George: I hadn't really been thinking about it... It just seemed like a good idea at the time. You and Cristina have been together for awhile.
      Burke: You got married pretty fast.
      George: So, in theory, it's better to know someone well, or pretty well before getting ---
      Burke: Still there are no guarntees.
      George: I don't believe in divorce.
      Burke: Neither do I.
      George: Is it possible, do you think, to love two people at the same time?
      Burke: I'm still hoping it's possible to love one.

    • (Addison is sitting in a stairwell, crying)
      Pete: There you are. I just stopped by to see how Lisa and the baby are doing. (Addison wipes her eyes) You okay?
      Addison: Yeah – I uh, had a little too much surgery today. I'm good.
      Pete: You look good. You look beautiful. Sam told me I had to stay away from you because you're Naomi's friend.
      Addison: Stop it.
      Pete: What?
      Addison: You're flirting.
      Pete: What's wrong with flirting?
      Addison: What's wrong with it? What's wrong? What's wrong is that I don't have time for it. I am out of time. I missed my chance. And now I have two eggs left, I might as well have no eggs left. I am egg-less. Naomi says she's dried up? I'm the one who's dried up --- I'm all barren and dried up. And I'm clearly wasting my time on men. I mean, I might as well take up hobbies. Like needlepoint or collecting those ceramic dolls because that's what dried up women do, they do needlepoint. They don't waste their time flirting with men who clearly just want to get laid. (gets choked up) They don't waste their time telling overly personal information about their eggs to total strangers. Oh my God, I'm sorry. (Addison stands up - but Pete grabs her) What are you doing?
      Pete: I'm going to kiss you. I'm going to kiss you with tongue. I'm going kiss you so you feel it. Okay?
      Addison (wipes her nose): Okay. (they kiss) What was that for?
      Pete: To remind you that you're not dried up. (walks down the stairs) If you need me to remind you again, lemme know. (walks out the door)
      Addison: Okay.

    • Violet: Cooper, you're blocking the caffeine.
      Naomi: He's blocking the caffeine.
      Violet: Cooper, if you move, I'll give you a cookie.
      Naomi: Hey, did something go wrong with Lisa's surgery?
      Cooper: No, we handled it. Addison is uh… excellent, pretty excellent.
      Violet: Only because you sighed twice. What's the matter, Cooper?
      Cooper: I don't go to hookers, I don't go to strip clubs. I meet women on the Internet, who want to meet me. So I like them a little younger and little dirtier. Is that wrong? (Naomi and Violet just stare at him) It's wrong?
      Naomi: You need to meet a grown-up. You need to date someone your own age.
      Violet: Someone without a porny internet name and perhaps no criminal past.
      Naomi: A nice girl.
      Violet: A reliable girl.
      Naomi: Someone who you can have a relationship with.
      Violet: You're a respected doctor.
      Naomi: Go out in the real world. Meet a woman your own age and go out.
      Violet: Be a man.

    • Susan: Hey, Meredith, why don't you show your dad the cafeteria?
      Meredith: Sure. We're on to you, you know. (Susan smiles)

    • (Bailey pulls back a curtain in the clinic, finds Burke there)
      Burke: Dr. Bailey, I was... um, looking for some privacy and I thought nobody would come looking for me down here so...
      Bailey: No problem. Take your time.
      Burke: Dr. Bailey, (she turns around) you've been married for a long time, do you think it's a problem that one person is more... ready?
      Bailey: O'Malley!
      George (pulls back curtain): Yeah?
      Bailey: Come here. (George walks over there) I want the two of you to talk to each other. I want you to talk to each other and I want you to leave my marriage out of it. And I also want you to leave my clinic out of it and by that I mean, get out. I need the space, I need the peace and the quiet and I need it now.

    • Bailey (to George who is laying in one of the clinic's beds): You sick, O'Malley? (he sits up and she feels his forehead) You feel fine. Now take an asprin and get off my clean bed.
      George: You've been married a long time, right?
      Bailey: O'Malley, I do not have time to answer --
      George: Do you have doubts about your marriage? I know it may be insecurities, but really serious doubts?

    • Violet: Therapy sucks.
      Pete: Said the shrink.
      Violet: No, I mean my particular brand of therapy might actually be full of crap. People talking about their problems endlessly, telling people to think positively, visualize their destiny...
      Pete: It doesn't work?
      Violet: I think positively, I visualize my destiny, and look, just look.
      Pete: What am I lookin' at?
      Violet: Me, and my pathetic miserable existence. He left six months ago. He was a loser! Do you know he peed a little bit every time he coughed? Like an incontinent old woman. He smelled like pee. And there I was in the car crying, and I am a serious feminist. Not to mention, my no sex couple, it turns out it was a hormone thing. In the old days we would've talked and talked and talked as Paul got sicker. My profession is becoming irrelevant. Maybe it's a good thing.
      Pete: People should just tell the truth to the other people in their lives.
      Violet: They can't. If they could, we'd all be healthy.
      Pete: Like me.
      Violet: You're not heathly, you're in denial.
      Pete: I am not in denial.
      Violet: You're in denial and you're angry. You're the angriest man I know.
      Pete: Is that why you won't sleep with me?
      Violet: You're in denial, you're angry and you use sex as a weapon to deflect it.

    • Addison:'re the quack.
      Pete: Uh, I went to med school. I'm also a licensed herbalist, and I spent five years in China learning alternative medicine.
      Addison: Like I said... quack.
      Pete: C'mere, unless you need to go tell someone that you saw Goody Johnson with the devil.
      Addison: Okay.
      Pete: Lie down on the table.
      Addison: Why?
      Pete: I wanna show you that I'm not a quack.
      Addison: I'm not taking my clothes off.
      Pete: Did I ask you to take your clothes off? (Addison pauses, and then lies on the table. He lifts up her arm) You're carrying some serious tension in your shoulders and above your right eye.
      Addison: What do you mean?
      Pete: Blocking some serious emotion. Hang on.
      Addison: What are you doing? (Pete starts to put acupuncture needles in her face) Ow. (puts in another needle) Ow. (puts in another needle) Ow.
      Pete: Stop saying 'ow', it doesn't hurt. Okay, I'm done.
      Addison: Wait, wait, wait. Where are you going? You can't leave me here like this.
      Pete: Lie still. Breathe. You're going to feel a rush of emotion. A release of psychic pain. (leaves)
      Addison: Hello? Hello? I don't feel anything.,. except stupid for letting some cute, hippie boy put needles in my face. Hello? Yeah, Pete, this isn't working. I don't have any psychic pain. I'm great. Barren, but fan-freaking-tastic. You can come back now, I'm not feeling any rush of emotion... or anything... I don't feel...anything. I don't feel anything at all. (starts crying) I don't feel anything at all. (starts crying harder) I hate L.A.

    • Meredith: Hey, you're back? Is everything okay?
      Bailey: She's got a fever, and I think I hear a small murmur.
      Thatcher: A heart murmur?
      Susan: Don't be dramatic. At least it's not the hiccups.

    • Addison: I just never thought about it... What the dream would be if... I couldn't have my dream.
      Naomi: Empty office.
      Addison: Yeah, what're we doing? I thought we were going to lunch, what're we doing still sitting here?
      Naomi: We are doing what I do when I get depressed. Just wait. (looks at her watch) What time do you have?
      Addison: It's five to one. You know, I'm glad that I can't have a child. With my luck I'd probably have a kid with two heads... It's actually better. I'm grateful that I don't have to think about it, the option is off the table.
      Violet (walks in): What time do you have?
      Naomi: Five to one.
      Addison: You people are obsessed with time.
      Violet (sits down): Here he comes. (Dell walks in shirtless, carrying a surf board)
      Naomi: Hi, Dell. (they all stare for a long moment)
      Violet: Have a nice surf.
      Dell: I'll see you guys after lunch. (leaves)
      Addison (laughs): You guys should be ashamed of yourselves.
      Naomi: Admit it, you feel better.
      Violet: And if not, there's another showing in an hour. And it's wet.

    • Derek: I heard Susan was back. Everything okay?
      Meredith: An infection. She'll be fine.
      Derek: Good. 'Cause I figured, if anything was wrong you would tell me
      Meredith: If it was serious, I would. In a very letting you in sort of way. You know what's weird?
      Derek: What?
      Meredith: My father… we are almost… talking
      Derek: Really?
      Meredith: How's the trailer?
      Derek: It's… freezing! You wanna eat later? I'll bring something over
      Meredith: Using me for central heating?
      Derek: Among other things.
      Meredith: Okay.

    • Addison: Hello? Hello? Are you there... elevator God, it's me, Addison.
      Elevator: What?
      Addison: Hi.
      Elevator: Hi.
      Addison: Look, you may be a figment of my imagination or maybe I'm going completely insane. I don't know, or maybe, this is payback for my crimes on some ginormous karmic level, I don't know. I just-- I just wanna tell you that I'm sorry for yelling at you, okay?
      Elevator: Okay.

    • Meredith (closing voiceover): At some point, maybe we accept that the dream has become a nightmare. We tell ourselves the reality is better. We convince ourselves that it's better to never dream at all. But the strongest of us, the most determined of us, we hold onto the dream. Or we find ourselves faced with a fresh dream we never considered. We awake to find ourselves against all odds, feeling hopeful. And if we're lucky, we realize in the face of everything, in the face of life, the true dream, is being able to dream at all.

  • NOTES (2)

    • Original International Air Dates:
      The Netherlands: June 11, 2007 on Net 5
      Germany: November 14th, 2007 on Pro Sieben
      Italy: July 2, 2007 on Foxlife
      Australia: July 29, 2007 on Channel 7
      Israel: August 13, 2007 on Yes Stars 1
      Ireland: October 23, 2007 on RTE Two
      Germany: November 14th, 2007 on PRO7
      Norway: January 22, 2008 on TV 2
      Finland: February 6, 2008 on Nelonen
      Croatia: February 25, 2008 on NOVA TV
      Czech Republic: April 20, 2008 on Prima
      Romania: July 22, 2008 on TVR1

    • Music Featured In This Episode:
      1. California by A.B. O'Neill
      2. Leaving In Coffins by Psapp
      3. Momma's Boy by Tim Myers
      4. You Don't Have Far to Go by Candi Staton
      5. Your Song by Kate Walsh
      6. Ain't Nothing Wrong With That by Robert Randolph & The Family Band
      7. Mojo Love by Lay Low plays when the OWG gang look on the new family, and during the George/Izzie elevator kiss scene
      8. SRXT by Bloc Party plays when Alex is taking Ava outside


    • Episode Title: The Other Side of This Life

      This episode's title refers to songs by The Youngbloods, David Byrne and Jefferson Airplane.

    • Addison: Are you there Elevator God? It's me, Addison.

      Play on Judy Blume's 1970 novel Are you there God? It's me, Margaret about a sixth grade girl's journey through the world puberty. Margaret confronts buying her first bra, having her first period, liking boys, and finding her own voice among her girlfriends. She is also on a quest to find her own religion. She has one Christian parent and one Jewish parent, and up until now has not been raised in any specific faith.

    • Pete: Unless you need to tell someone you saw Goody Johnson with the devil.

      This is a reference to Arthur Miller's play The Crucible, which is about the Salem Witch Trials of the 1690's.