This was the first time that the sextuplets were able to invite their own friends to their birthday party. In the past, it's either been just a family affair, or Jon and Kate invited people themselves. However, due to some different factors--including Kate's concern that some kids would only befriend her children for fame purposes--the sextuplets were only allowed to invite one friend each.
Jon: (at the kids' birthday party) Who'd you invite? What friend came of yours?
Alexis: Um, Brayden.
Jon: Brayden. Wait. You invited a boy?
Alexis: That's my buddy!
Jon: That's your buddy?
Alexis: At school, I play with him, and I talk to him, and I play with him again.
Jon: No hugs, right?
Alexis: I don't hug friends. I only hug parents.
Jon: No kisses, right?
Alexis: No. I kiss my parents, remember? I don't kiss friends. (hugs Jon) I love you.
Jon: I love you. Miss me? (pauses) Go play.
Alexis: Daddy, I don't want you to leave anymore.
Jon: Well, sometimes, daddies gotta do work...
Kate: (about the show) It's definitely become more like work. Juggling, um, getting meals set, laundry done, packed, unpacked, repacked, spending time with the kids, getting settled back at home. You know, all of a sudden, your kids are calling you your baby-sitter's name. I got that for the first time the other day. That kills you. I've never had that before in my life. Very difficult. But then you have to step back--and it's that control thing--and realize, are my kids happy, healthy, safe, and loved? If the answer is yes to all of those things, you're good. They know that I love them. There's no question. But I pour that "mommy guilt" on myself a lot. Probably too much.
Producer: But what if the roles were reversed, and you were the one out traveling, and [Kate] was home?
Jon: (chuckles) Since I can't write, that probably would never happen. Some people say I can't talk either, or breathe right, but, uh, I don't know. I've worked my whole life, and to be home...I love being home with my kids. Don't get me wrong. I mean, I guess you always think the grass is greener, but it's not what I chose, you know? It was kind of chosen for me, and, um, you know, I did it because I love my kids, and I love my family, and that's what it is.
Kate: It's a lot. I would be lying if I sat here and said, "Oh, I'm handling it great. Every minute is fine." It's not fine. We had a lot of conversations prior to all this erratic behavior that doesn't remind me of the Jon I know. He doesn't, obviously...all of a sudden--which I don't understand, because he was always the one who was really good with fans and talking to people and whatever--and all of a sudden, he doesn't like them anymore, and he doesn't like being in the limelight, and, um, I think he's just really wanting to bust out of here and try to make it all go away, which, again, news flash. It's not going to.
Jon: Well, this is a different kind of career, because this is your life and your career, and in no other place does that exist. We originally did the show to document our kids' lives, and I mean, it's become a business, just like anything else.
Kate: I have learned that I am very grateful to our fans, who I once was probably not so fond of. As we would go out in public, I would look at them as, you know, like, "Seriously, get enough. We're just a family," forgetting that, you know, they invite us into their living room, and we're part of their family. A lot of them feel that way. So I have a different outlook on fans now. I'm very grateful for their support, appreciative of them, and, um, and you know, even the naysayers, they just...they keep me where I need to be, you know what I mean? So all in all, you know, if you're watching for whatever reason, I appreciate you.
Jon: (about being followed around by the paparazzi) People might say I brought it upon...fine. Let them say I brought it upon myself, but that was just me and my personality, and me doing nothing but being innocent and hanging out. I never cheated on Kate, and you know, that's the way it is. And I don't care who believes me. I know what I know, and she only knows what she knows. I just don't think in the recent months, I've thought clearly enough, and I take full blame. I mean, I just didn't think that it would escalate into what it's become.
Kate: I think the thing that makes me the maddest is that, you know, Jon made some mistakes, and he was out and whatever, and okay, so that makes people question him. I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing. I'm working and traveling. Yes, I take security with me. Yes, I travel here, there, and everywhere because that's my job, and I'll be darned if they're going to take me down with that! I mean, just the allegations make me furious, and I need to change the subject, because it makes me very mad.
Kate: (about Jon) Have I been hard on him over the last, you know, ten, almost ten years that we've been married? Absolutely. I would never deny that. I would never...I mean, you have it on tape. So yeah, I've been really hard on him, and I've always regretted it. Have I pushed him to this? I don't feel like I have, because I feel like everyone is responsible for their own actions. I could be reacting like a real idiot right now. I could be saying, "I don't want to see you again. Disappear. Fall off the face of the Earth!" But I am trying to look at it from a "Let's handle this constructively, in the best way possible" [standpoint], and that is very difficult, but I am trying. I have a lot of anger. I always say that so blatantly, but I just have to say it. I just have a lot of anger, because this is not where we were supposed to be. This is not what I envisioned for us, um, not what I envisioned for him. He's made some very poor decisions, and you know, we all have to live with them.
Kate: Um, in dealing with all that anger that I probably have...and remember, it's important to say that I've been dealing with this for probably six months now, and maybe even longer, if I was being really honest. Um, slowly, I've just seen [Jon] almost resent the duties. It's a lot to take care of eight kids. I know he's here a lot. I'm traveling a lot. He is here a lot. I get that. It's a long, frustrating job, but he does have help, so he's not doing this alone at this point. So he's angry with me, I think, that he's home and I'm not, yet he doesn't really feel great about me, so he wants me to travel. Like, it's such...it is so involved, I almost can't even put it into words. And I don't know what the solution is. I don't think he knows what the solution is.
Jon: I guess my fear would be that my kids wouldn't believe me, because there's so much media out there. I mean, they shouldn't really have any reason not to [believe me], because we're pretty open, and we talk to our kids, and they tell us everything, because we have eight tattletales, so that's pretty much the way it is in this family. I mean, one day, my kids are gonna Google me, and I'm gonna have to explain myself, and hopefully, they're mature enough to understand that it was all crap.
Producer: So in the middle of all this, you still have a birthday party to plan?
Kate: All about the kids. We have a big party coming up, so again, it's another milestone. It's not just a birthday. I say it every year. It's a celebration of, we've made it five years, and, um, I like to do them up big, because you never get their fifth birthday back again.
Jon: I'd like to apologize to my family for my actions. Um, like I said, I was in the wrong place at the wrong time, but I understand the ramifications of everything and how it would really affect everything. Um, you know, I should have thought about more what I did and where I was going, and stuff like that. And everyone knows what I'm talking about, and now I'm gonna have to explain it.
Jon: The media storm stuff? I hate the media storm stuff.
Kate: I can't do anything to stop them. I mean, they go on public property, taking pictures of me going to everywhere under the sun.
Jon: I did not sign up for the public scrutiny of everything, and neither did Kate. I mean, people are getting paid off just to say whatever they want to say. I mean, if I paid you $20,000, who knows what you'd say? I mean, I have paparazzi standing outside my house 24/7.
Kate: When you pull into the party store, and you're unloading your kids, and your 5-year-old Joel yells, "Oh there's the paparazzi!" then you know you've been followed for a while. And I've always, like, I don't let them say the word "paparazzi". I make them call them "P-people", because I don't want them going to school and being like, "Well, the paparazzi followed us!" That's so creepy.
Interviewer: Was the birthday party bittersweet?
Kate: Uh, pretty much. It was, um...(chokes up) Sorry. Sorry. I don't want to ruin my makeup. Um, you know, I remember thinking this possibly be, maybe, I don't know, our last family picture, so I knew it was important to do. It was...thinking back five years ago...and...realizing, you know, parents of multiples have, like, triple the divorce rate, and thinking we were gonna beat that. Um, but I don't know if I can say that anymore. Um...very swiftly, we turned into two different people, and it's just hard. I've tried for six months to figure out what the problem is, or remedy the problem, or, um...I don't know. Ugh. It's so complicated, and so it's just difficult. But, generally speaking, we, you know, physically, if nothing else, pulled [the birthday party] off.
Kate: I can absolutely say that I am wholeheartedly in everything that I'm doing for the kids. i wake up because of the kids. I breathe because of my kids. I work because of my kids. I work harder because of my kids. I'm committed to not letting any of this harm them. I will do my best to be as positive as possible for my kids.
Jon: I'm here for my kids too, and I take them to school and take care of them here every day. I quit my job two years ago so I could stay home with the kids, and also so Kate could go work on her speaking engagements and book stuff, so I'm here for my kids, too.
Interviewer: And what the future holds, we don't know?
Kate: I can only speak for myself. I'm here. I'm here every minute that working doesn't require me to be away, so I can't speak for anyone but myself.
Jon: I'm here for my kids.