Sex and the City

Season 3 Episode 12

Don't Ask, Don't Tell

Aired Sunday 9:00 PM Aug 27, 2000 on HBO
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Carrie is in a continued quandary as to whether to tell Aidan about her renewed relationship with Mr. Big. At the last moment, Charlotte starts to have doubts about marrying Trey. Samantha has a relationship with one of the wedding party. Miranda pretends to be an air stewardess to get a date.moreless

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  • Big Step Up...

    Charlotte's wedding approaches. Miranda pretends to be a stewardess. Carrie tries really heard to tell the truth and finally does it, and Samantha experiments with the Scottish best man.

    Carrie's love traingle is starting to drag which is why the writers finally decided to break the truth to Aidan. Miranda and Samantha are in desperate need of more consistent storylines, and Charlotte's relationship with her new husband is intriguing. I have a feeling things will get complicated. I enjoyed that this episode escalated things. It's a shame not all the season 3 episodes are atleast up to these standards.moreless
  • Carrie finally confesses to Aiden about her affair with Big, Miranda fakes being a stewardess to get a date and Charlotte gets married.

    This was a good episode in general. Very sad moment at the end with Carrie confessing all to Aiden, mostly because I really like Aiden and it was heart wrenching seeing him that hurt and seeing Carrie in tears. Even though she kind of had it coming.

    Charlottes wedding was nice, even if she isnt completely convinced by the whole thing.

    I had a problem with this episode though and its probably really stupid but what was with that Scottish guy?! Im from Scotland and I know it shouldnt irrate me because its just Hollywood butchering a culture and adding fuel to the sterotype fire as Hollywood loves to do but no one talks like that in Scotland! I couldnt even understand him and Im Scottish! I know the point was not to understand him but can you say taking the p**s?

    And "men in skirts"? Seriously? At least they were close to the right length. Normally in american tv shows or movies the kilts are damn near ankle lenght.

    Ok done now.moreless
  • Charlotte's First Wedding

    Charlotte finds out about a little problem between her and Trey. I don't think that she should have slept with Trey on the first date, but like Samantha said you don't buy a car without a test drive first. Miranda fakes being a stewardess to get a date for the wedding. Samantha pursues one of Trey's relatives AKA the Hot Scot. Carrie finally confesses her affair with Big to Aiden. Love all the womens outfits in the opening scene at the dinner and for Charlottes bachelorette party. Charlottes wedding dress and all of the bridesmaid dresses are lovely. Miranda wears some sort of striped thing around her neck for a date and it is ridiculous looking.moreless
Frances Sternhagen

Frances Sternhagen

Bunny McDougall

Guest Star

Clark Gregg

Clark Gregg

Harris Bragen

Guest Star

Ritchie Coster

Ritchie Coster

Caleb McDougall

Guest Star

Willie Garson

Willie Garson

Stanford Blatch

Recurring Role

Kyle MacLachlan

Kyle MacLachlan

Trey MacDougal

Recurring Role

John Corbett

John Corbett

Aidan Shaw

Recurring Role

Trivia, Notes, Quotes and Allusions


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  • QUOTES (13)

    • Carrie: It's hard to find people who would love you no matter what. I was lucky enough to find three of them.

    • Carrie: The wedding was complete. Charlotte had something old, something new, something borrowed and someone Samantha blew.

    • Samantha: (to Miranda) By the way they do wear something under those kilts, but it's easy to get off.

    • Charlotte: Miranda, please don't bleed on my dress?
      Miranda: I'm trying not to.

    • Samantha: Don't you think this dress could stand to be a little bit shorter?
      Charlotte: Samantha, all the skirts have to be the same length.
      Samantha: Really? What about Trey's skirt?
      Charlotte: It's a kilt, and it's tradition.

    • Miranda: She's so damn happy.
      Samantha: Of course she's happy, she doesn't have to be a bridesmaid.
      Carrie: Well, we got off easy, let's not forget the groomsmen have to wear kilts.
      Samantha: I like the idea of men in skirts, easy access.
      Miranda: Is it true that they wear nothing underneath?
      Samantha: I'll find out and get back to you.

    • Miranda: I'm just saying as a lawyer, a partner no less, I got zero dates and as a stewardess, I got one for tomorrow night.
      Carrie: I believe the correct term is flight attendant.
      Miranda: Not if you wanna get laid.
      Samantha; Honey, it doesn't matter what you say you do, it's how you say it. For example; I'm in PR, translation, I give great head.

    • Carrie: You said you were a Stewardess?
      Miranda: I was testing a theory.
      Carrie: A theory being?
      Miranda: That men are threatened by powerful jobs. They don't want a lawyer, they want...
      Aiden: A liar!

    • Charlotte: Well, I wanted to save myself until we got married.
      Carrie: But, sweetie, you're not a virgin.
      Charlotte: Well, I am in this relationship, and I think it's romantic.
      Samantha: Yeah, it's romantic, until he can't figure out where to put it in. Honey, what if he's terrible?
      Charlotte: He won't be terrible, no. He is an amazing kisser and he is so sexy and he loves me, and I've wanted to do things to him that I've never done to any body. Like the other night I was thinking of putting whip cream all over my body...
      Samantha: Low fat Cool Whip is the best. It's less sticky, than other brands.

    • Samantha: It's also the possibilty that your next great fuck is just around the corner.
      Charlotte: Well, my next great...
      Miranda: Yes?
      Carrie, Miranda, Samantha: Say it!
      Charlotte: Fuck...
      Miranda, Carrie, Samantha: Whomp!
      Charlotte: Is, just around the corner. I finally get to sleep with Trey.
      Carrie: Excuse me?
      Miranda: You haven't slept with him yet?
      Samantha: Honey, before you buy the car, you take it for a test drive.

    • Samantha: You know marriage doesn't guarantee a happy ending, just an ending.
      Charlotte: (raises her glass) An end to dating!

    • Miranda: I can't believe you're getting married? Is this the beginning, are you next? Carrie: Oh yeah, I'm headed for a story book ending. The little curly head girl had an affair, lied to her boyfriend and lived happily ever after.

    • Charlotte: Carrie, you're right, you have to tell him. But not before the wedding. It's supposed to be my week.
      Miranda: It's your day. You get a day, not a week.

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