Sex and the City

Season 2 Episode 18

Ex and the City

Aired Sunday 9:00 PM Oct 03, 1999 on HBO
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Episode Summary

Carrie wonders why she has never become friend with an ex-boyfriend, and decides that if she must start with someone, that someone mind as well be Mr. Big. She calls him up for inviting him over for a dinner, where he breaks the news that he's proposed to his new girlfriend, Natasha. Shocked, Carrie storms out of the restaurant, shouting and yelling about how with her he had a commitment problem for two years, but had found no difficulties on proposing to what's-her-name after five months. Meanwhile, the other gals try to find friends themselves. After running away (literally) from Steve, Miranda receives a visit from him in her place and ends up in bed with him – they're friends who have sex. Charlotte tries to become friends with a horse and overcome her trauma caused by her best friend – a horse – who threw her from his back when she was a child. And Samantha faces a challenge: she meets a man with a huge penis. So big that she isn't sure she can make it. When the doubt becomes a certain, she proposes they stay just friends – for the safety of her own vagina!moreless

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  • A Katie girl

    Being a huge fan of "The Way We Were," this episode is extremely special. This episode is probably one of the best in the entire series.

    The Carrie/Big merry-go-round has finally come to an end. While trying to be friends, Big tells Carrie he is engaged to Natasha. Carrie has a breakdown and screams at him, telling him he strung her along.

    The final scenes of the episode are classic. First, the four girls drinking Cosmpolitans and discussing the difference between Carrie and Natasha. Carrie is complicated and intelligent while Natasha is young and less difficult. Big can't deal with a complex relationship - he wants things to be easy.

    Carrie confronts Big as he comes out of his engagement party at the Plaza. She asks him why it wasn't her...she says she "has to hear him say it." He tells her things just got to difficult...

    And then, in true The Way We Were fashion, she brushes his hair aside and says, "Your girl is lovely, Hubbel." Big, of course, doesn't get it and she responds, "And you never will."

    A truly beautiful episode.moreless
  • The Hubbell Factor

    OK I admit that I can do without the scene at the end where the women sing The Way We Were to each other. Actually I like the scene other than the kkkkkinky hair part and the actual singing. I'm not such a big fan of people breaking out into song in public like that. But it was totally true that Big could not deal with Carrie the way she was. I think that he needed someone he could control more like Natasha. Also how fabulous was Carries pink dress at the end of the episode. I think that my love of an episode is definitely influenced by the attire of the women.moreless
  • The reason I saw "The Way we Were"!

    This is a great episode which showcases the dimensions of the show. Each of the 4 main characters are in drastically different situations. On the serious side Carrie is dealing with Big's impending nuptials and Miranda and Steve are trying to figure out how to be friends. On the lighter side Samantha makes her first male friend while Charlotte tries to get back on the horse (literally). I love Carrie's self evaluation about curly-haired girls versus straight-haired girls. What's great about this episode is that you really think Carrie is ready to move on after this episode, because she has learned something about herself. Since Steve and Miranda are my all time favorite couple, I appreciate that this episode opens the door for them again. Samantha proves that she does have feelings about men, something we won't see again for awhile. Charlotte's story is just light fluff since everyone else is going through intense issues. All in all this leaves many questions for the next season.moreless
  • Season 2 Finale

    It was a great finale; although:

    Like always, I could have doen with out Big, but I loved Carrie's fight scene with him. I think Sarah Jessica Parker excels more as an actress when she is yelling and having a nasty arguement with someone. She puts all her passion and hate into it.

    I do believe that Charlotte could have had a better storyline than dealing with a horse.

    Samantha learns that she doesn't like a small penis and she definatley cannot handle a big one.

    Steve and Miranda gives it another shot, which will, like always end badly.

    Overall, a great season finale.

John Enos III

John Enos III

Mr. Cocky

Guest Star




Guest Star

Michael H. Ingram

Michael H. Ingram


Guest Star

Chris Noth

Chris Noth

Mr. Big

Recurring Role

Bridget Moynahan

Bridget Moynahan


Recurring Role

David Eigenberg

David Eigenberg

Steve Brady

Recurring Role

Trivia, Notes, Quotes and Allusions


  • TRIVIA (3)

    • Goof: When Carrie and Big are having lunch and they talk about Big's music, right after she says: "ten minutes after we're awake", her hand holding the knife is on the left side of her cosmopolitan, but when the shot changes, her hand is on the right side, without time to have changed her position.

    • Goof: Samantha says that Black Widow spiders bite the heads of their mates when they're through. Actually, it's the female praying mantis who tries to bite off her mate's head after sex. The black widow spider just stings and poisons her mate.

    • During the scene where Samantha attempts to have sex with Mr. Cocky for the second time ("after 2 advance yoga classes and a hit of the best hawaiian gold she could find"), you can clearly see that she is wearing flesh colored panties.

  • QUOTES (21)

    • Carrie: After two advanced yoga classes and a hit of the best Columbian Gold she could find, Samantha was ready to take another run at Mount Everest.

    • Carrie: (Miranda has just told Carrie that Steve wants to be exclusive and that she's feeling conflicted about it) Time for the old list.
      Miranda: The list?
      Carrie: Things you like about Steve, things you don't like about Steve. Then see which list is longer.
      Miranda: That seems so judgmental.
      Carrie: Miranda, you are judgmental. Try putting it to good use.

    • Carrie: Maybe some women aren't meant to be tamed. Maybe they need to run free until they find someone just as wild to run with.

    • Carrie: And what about your music? If I had to listen to freakin' Blood, Sweat and Tears one more time...
      Mr. Big: Hey, Blood, Sweat and Tears is great stuff.
      Carrie: Ten minutes after we're awake?

    • Miranda: I am shitty. You would never do anything that shitty.
      Steve: What do you call showing up at your apartment in the middle of the afternoon and calling you shitty?
      Miranda: Yeah, that was pretty shitty!

    • Carrie: Ladies, I'm having an epiphany. THe world is made up of two types of women. The simple girls and the Katie girls. I'm a Katie girl.

    • Steve: So what now? Are we still just friends?
      Miranda: Yeah, we're still just friends. Friends who have sex.

    • Samantha: You dated Mr. Big. I'm dating Mr. Too Big.

    • Samantha: I'm telling you Carrie, it was like a wall of flesh coming at me.
      Carrie: There's nothing scarrier than a really big one coming at ya.
      Samantha: I didn't even want to get my mouth near it. I was afraid I'd get lockjaw. I mean, it was quite a shock. His hands were relatively tiny.
      Carrie: Oh don't tell me you believe that.
      Samantha: Not any more. I am really going to psych myself up before I try it again.
      Carrie: You're going to try it again? Why?
      Samantha: Because it's there...
      Carrie: Sweetie, it's a penis not Mount Everest.
      Samantha: Well, let me tell you, if it was Mount Everest last night I could only make it to Base Camp One.

    • Charlotte: Some horses, they, never really like to be ridden. Taddy was like that when I first got him but once I broke him in, he loved it.
      Carrie: You know what? I broke in Big. I did, I broke him in and now the Idiot Stick Figure With No Soul gets to ride him

    • Charlotte: How are you doing?
      Carrie: Aside from the fact that my ex is engaged to a teenager and I've got horse shit on my three hundred dollar shoes, I'm doing okay.
      Charlotte: Well, I think you're amazing. I would be in a hospital or something.

    • Carrie: Engaged? How can you be engaged? You have a problem with commitment, remember? In fact, you told me, you never wanted to get married again, ever.
      Mr. Big: Well things change.
      Carrie: Meaning what, you just didn't wanna marry me.
      Mr. Big: Look, Natasha and I...
      Carrie: Don't say her name to me, don't you dare say her name to me! You string me along for two years and then you marry some twenty-five year old girl after only five months?

    • Samantha: Natasha? What a bull shit name.
      Mirnada: Totally!
      Charlotte: Stupid!
      Carrie: Yeah, it's complete bull shit.

    • Carrie: There is no way that the love that I had with Big is the same thing he has with Natasha.
      Miranda: Natasha? When'd you stop calling her the Idiot Stick Figure With No Soul?
      Carrie: About three weeks ago when I saw them at Cafe M. He was holding her hand and smiling and...I finally got it. They're happy, slash, we're over. And it was okay.

    • Carrie: If you love someone and you break up, where does the love go?
      Samantha: To their next girlfriend.

    • Carrie: We keep dresses we'll never wear again, but we throw away our ex boyfriends.

    • Miranda: Believe me, I would love to be one of those people who's all; we loved, thank you, you enriched my life, now go and prosper. But I'm much more; we didn't work out, you need to not exist.

    • Miranda: I have never been able to be friends with an ex boyfriend. I met those couples who stay friends and I think how? How do they do that?
      Samantha: I've never been able to be friends with any man. Why would I? Women are for friendships, men are for fucking.

    • Carrie: He looked so hurt. Like a kid in one of those big eyed velvet paintings.
      Charlotte: Oh, poor Steve.
      Miranda: Well, I'm sorry I panicked. What was I gonna do, stand around and chit chat about the weather? The man has been inside me, for God's sakes.

    • Carrie: Your girl is lovely, Hubbell.
      Mr. Big: I don't get it.
      Carrie: And you never did.

    • Carrie: You broke up with James because he was too small. This guy's too big. Who are you, Goldicocks?
      Samantha: Yep! I'm looking for one, that's juuuust right.

  • NOTES (1)


    • Carrie: You broke up with James because he was too small. This guy's too big. Who are you, Goldicocks?
      Samantha: Yep! I'm looking for one, that's juuuust right.

      Is a reference to the very popular 18th century children's fairy tale from England "Goldilocks and the Three Bears," about a young girl who enters the home of a family of bears and causes mischief.

    • Carrie: Sweetie, it's a penis not Mount Everest.

      Mount Everest is the tallest mountain in the world with a elevation of 8844.43 meters and is located in Nepal in the Himalaya Mountain Range.

    • Carrie: Your girl is lovely, Hubbell.
      This is a quote from the movie The Way We Were, In the film, Katie and Hubbell fall in love despite their political and social differences and get married. Hubbell has an affair, leading Katie to see that Hubbell is not the person that she idealized and admired when she fell in love with him, and they decide to part ways. Years later they accidentally meet on the streets of New York City. With Hubbell is a beautiful woman who exemplifies the WASP ideal. Katie and Hubbell share a tender moment where it is clear that he is hurt that they are no longer together and believes that he was at his best when he was with her and feels that no one will believe in him or see as much promise in him as Katie did. They leave each other with fond memories of "the way they were."