Sex and the City

Season 2 Episode 12

La Douleur Exquise!

Aired Sunday 9:00 PM Aug 22, 1999 on HBO



  • Trivia

  • Quotes

    • Mr. Big: This isn't about us. This is about work!
      Carrie: No, this isn't about work. This is about us getting closer and you getting so freaked out that you have to put an ocean between us.

    • Stanford: Excuse me, but when did wild sex come back in style?
      Carrie: Oh I think that was the weekend you spent at the Barney's warehouse sale.
      Waiter: (male, barely dressed) Three cosmopolitans, a diet coke, and a vodka martini with a twist.
      Samantha: (whips the table) I said olive! (Waiter bends over, and Samantha gives his butt a whipping) Bad waiter! Bad waiter!
      Miranda: What do you tip for that?
      Samantha: Anyone else want a whack?
      Charlotte: How does he wait our tables dressed like that, it's humiliating.
      Carrie: Well the summer I worked at Howard Johnson's I had to wear an orange hat.
      Samantha: Don't be so judgemental! This is just a sexual expression. All these people have jobs and pay their bills. They're just having fun with fetishes. (tickling Charlotte with the tip of her whip) Hmm, I wonder what your fetish is.
      Stanford: Charlotte has a thing for Crabtree & Evelyn foot cream.
      Charlotte: I don't have a fetish!
      Samantha: We all have a fetish! The difference between us and them is, they're putting it out there where everyone can see. And I think it's healthy and fabulous.
      Carrie: (getting up) Well, it was lovely to see you all. And remember ladies, whipping on the first date is considered forward.
      Stanford: You sit your ass down, Mistress Carrie, there are drinks present.
      Carrie: No can do, Big's flying to Paris tomorrow for business and I want to say goodbye.
      Samantha: Oh, why not give him a goodbye he'll never forget? (hands the whip and top hat to Carrie)
      Stanford: Sacre bleu!
      Samantha: Go get 'im, girl!

    • Carrie: After we made love I knew it was over. Did I ever really love Big or was I addicted to the pain, the exquisite pain of wanting someone so unattainable?

    • Carrie: You said that you love me?
      Mr Big: I do!
      Carrie: Then why does it hurt so fucking much.

    • Carrie: Why is it so hard for you to factor me into your life in any real way?
      Mr Big: I guess old habits die hard.

    • Carrie: It's about the fact that I wasn't even a factor in his decision-making process.
      Miranda: Totally.
      Samantha: Men do this all the time. Women walk around thinking "we", and their version of "we", is "me and my dick".
      Miranda: Totally!

    • Miranda: Great, your love life takes you to Paris and I'm fucking in the back of a cab.
      Carrie: That's lovely.
      Miranda: And, it's not just there, we've done it in the bathroom at Bond Street....
      Charlotte: Oh, I just ate there.
      Miranda: The elevator at the Marriott Marquis and a public restroom in Central Park.
      Carrie: How very George Michael of you.

  • Notes

    • This is the second time that Big and Carrie have broken up. The first time was in season 1 finale.

    • The title is French, it means: the exquisite pain. It is also the name of the S&M Club at the beginning of this episode.

  • Allusions

    • When Carrie says that it was "very George Michael" of Miranda to have sex in a public restroom, she was referring to the time in 1998 when the former lead singer of Wham was arrested for lewd conduct in a public restroom in Beverly Hills.