Star Trek: Deep Space Nine

Season 5 Episode 3

Looking for par'Mach in All the Wrong Places

Aired Weekdays 11:00 AM Oct 14, 1996 on Syndicado
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Episode Summary

Stardate: Unknown Worf falls in love with Quark's ex-wife, Grilka. However, Quark is also still interested.

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  • Nice sequel to "The House of Quark"

    With a title based on an old Johnny Lee song (because, I assume, the Shakespearean random title generator was unavailable) this lighthearted Quark/Worf episode serves as a sequel to third season's "The House of Quark" - bringing back Mary Kay Adams as Quark's ex-wife Grilka for Star Trek's version of the 1897 play, Cyrano de Bergerac. (Dax thoughtfully catches viewers up to speed on the prequel, and explains that "par'Mach" is the Klingon word for love, with "aggressive overtones") It's really just a low-budget filler episode, but it benefits from having a gorgeous Klingon set left over from "Apocalypse Rising" and rich character interplay, including a B story with O'Brien and Kira trying to avoid a relationship. (It's fun to see them trying to respect boundaries, with Keiko naively unaware of what's going on, only to see the "relationship" accidently move forward). It's the perfect opportunity for Andrew J. Robinson (Garak) to make his Star Trek directorial debut, as it plays to his strengths as an award winning stage director.

    "Looking for par'Mach" is also a notable episode for fans of Star Trek history. It not only brings back Joseph Ruskin (Galt in the original series episode "The Gamesters of Triskelion") as Tumek , but it also includes Phil Morris. After appearing as a child in original series episode "Miri" and playing a cadet in Star Trek III (asking Admiral Kirk if there will be a ceremony when the Enterprise returns to earth,) Morris finally gets a credited part as Quark's Klingon adversary, Thopok.

  • What Happened?!

    I really liked this episode but I must take issue with the whole nonsense of Worf still being dishonored! In Redemption the Leader of the Klingon High Council GAVE BACK WORF HIS FAMILY HONOR! So he is not cursed! I guess the writers of Deep Space Nine didn't pay close attention to that episode.
  • Horrible!

    This episode is NOT worth your time! It is probably the WORST episode in any of the first 5 seasons (though it is vital in the character developement). The plot is so... stupid. It starts out with Grilka (you know, the Klingon woman Quark was forced to marry in "The House of Quark", season 2 I think it was) comeing aboard Deep Space Nine. Worf is instantly smitten, but after a failed attempt to be with her, he gives up and helps Quark win her heart. Why he does this, I do not know. Meanwhile, O'Brien and Kira are afraid that they are falling in love with one another (a stupid, yet kind of funny sub-plot). In the end, Dax confesses her love for Worf that seemingly comes out of nowhere (though it was slightly hinted at in a few previous episodes), and Quark and Grilka fall in love with one another, and then she is never seen in any other episode. She just vanishes after doing something that, if Quark were a Klingon, would mean she would have to marry him.

    If you've never seen this episode before, then all you need to know about it without wasting your time to see it is this: Worf and Dax fall in love. The only reason I gave it a 2.8 instead of like a 1 is because of the sub-plot with O'Brien and Kira.moreless
  • Entertaining filler - in some ways the Nerys-Miles story is the better one.

    Like many sequels, this followup to "The House of Quark" does not match the humor of the original. Yeah, there are some laughs and it's not a bad story, but the novelty of a Klingon-Ferengi relationship (as well as its plausibility) is much more strained this time around. Of course, the sudden romance between Jadzia and Worf, in the making since the middle of season 4, was probably the most interesting development the latter character experienced since season 5 of TNG.

    In some ways, it's the counterpart relationship - that between Miles and Major Kira - that rings more true, and . Some people have suggested that it's out of character for Miles to consider cheating on his wife, but I think it just showcases the very real humanity of characters on this show.moreless
  • Cyrano de Bergerac a la Klingon ...

    This is really a fun episode - Worf, in love with Quark's ex-wife, but not allowed to press his suit by Klingon custom (he is dishonoured), helps Quark to win her, ahem, heart. It's an amusing tale of the Cyrano story, with Worf getting the right girl in the end.
Armin Shimerman

Armin Shimerman


Terry Farrell

Terry Farrell

Lt./Lt. Commander Jadzia Dax (Season 1-6)

Michael Dorn

Michael Dorn

Lt. Commander Worf (Season 4-7)

Rene Auberjonois

Rene Auberjonois

Constable Odo

Nana Visitor

Nana Visitor

Major/Colonel/Commander Kira Nerys

Avery Brooks

Avery Brooks

Commander/Captain Benjamin Sisko

Mary Kay Adams

Mary Kay Adams


Guest Star

Joseph Ruskin

Joseph Ruskin


Guest Star

Phil Morris

Phil Morris


Guest Star

Rosalind Chao

Rosalind Chao

Keiko O'Brien

Recurring Role

Mark Allen Shepherd

Mark Allen Shepherd

Morn (uncredited)

Recurring Role

Trivia, Notes, Quotes and Allusions


  • TRIVIA (4)

    • Worf and Jadzia's romantic relationship starts at the end of this episode. Sparks also begin to fly between Kira and O'Brien, but they both make a conscious effort to pull back from any inappropriate intimacy.

    • Bizarrely, Worf says that he has never courted a Klingon female before, even though he fathered a child (Alexander Roshenko) with and attempted to marry a Klingon female (K'Ehleyr) in the Next Generation episodes "Reunion", "The Emissary" and "Sins Of The Father". Then again, K'Ehleyr was only half-Klingon, and preferred to behave mostly in the fashion of her human parent.

    • Nitpick: Even if Quark had Worf to lead him through the battle moves with Thopok, he still wouldn't have had the physical strength to hold back Thopok's blows.

    • Nitpick: Can a civilian like Quark really wander completely unescorted on to the Defiant, as he does when he comes to tell Worf about his date?

  • QUOTES (14)

    • Worf: The idea of a Ferengi courting a great lady is... offensive.
      Quark: You know, it's attitudes like that that keep you people from getting invited to all the really good parties!

    • Worf: You are not in my shoes.
      Jadzia: That's too bad. You'd be amazed what I can do in a pair of size eighteen boots.

    • Thopok: Where did you learn to fight with a bat'leth?!
      Quark: I'm a man of many talents!

    • Bashir: A compound fracture of the right radius, two fractured ribs, torn ligaments, strained tendons, numerous contusions, bruises and scratches - what have you been doing?
      Quark: You mean, what have WE been doing? (Quark and Grilka laugh)
      Bashir: Nevermind, I don't need that particular image running around in my head. I'll just treat you.
      (Worf and Jadzia come limping in)
      Bashir: What happened to you two?
      Worf: We... um....
      Jadzia: Well, um... if you must know, uh....
      Bashir: NO! No, uh, I don't need that image either. In fact, I'm going to stop asking that question altogether! People can come in, I will treat them, and that's all!

    • Worf: (to Morn) I will apologize for this at a later time.... YOU ARE IN MY SEAT! (throws Morn to the ground)

    • Jadzia: Quark, Klingon mating rituals are... very... involved. It's not just a one night affair.
      Quark: Two nights... whatever.

    • (talking about Klingon mating rituals)
      Quark: And then what?
      Jadzia: Well, either she accepts your offer, or she has her bodyguard shatter every bone in your body.

    • O'Brien: (talking about Kira) Who says we're fighting?
      Bashir: Uh, word gets around. It's a small station.
      O'Brien: It's a HUGE station!
      Bashir: Not huge enough...

    • Quark: She said I had the heart of a Basai Master... whatever that is.
      Worf: It is a poet.
      Quark: A poet? I guess I could live with that.

    • Quark: This is ridiculous! I'm surrounded by corpses, my shoes are dripping in blood, and you want me to feel romantic?

    • Grilka: Why do you pursue me?
      Quark: I only pursue those things I wish to acquire.
      Grilka: Acquire?! Now you sound like a Ferengi again!
      Quark: I am a Ferengi! That means I have a talent for appreciating objects of great value. And I believe you may be worth more than all the latinum in the Quadrant.

    • Quark: What if I just do what I did the last time a Klingon wanted to kill me? I throw my sword away, kneel down in front of him, and dare him to execute me. Yeah... he'll be humiliated, and slink away like a scolded targ.

    • Quark: My choices are to not show up, be branded a coward and lose Grilka, or die?
      Worf: Yes.
      Quark: Oh, come on, now! There must be another way out of this! You people have rituals for everything except waste extraction! You must have a ceremony or a secret handshake or something I can do!

    • Jadzia: How do you feel?
      Quark: Like a puppet! And I have some complaints for the puppeteer! You nearly wrenched my arm out of its socket!
      Worf: The movement would not have hurt if you were in better physical condition!
      Quark: Exercise makes me sweat.

  • NOTES (9)


    • Cyrano

      Worf helping Quark to woo his ex-wife Grilka is based on the play Cyrano de Bergerac by the French playwright Edmond Rostand. But in Rostand's play both men are fighters, and Cyrano helps Christian by writing love letters and feeding him lines from the shadows as Chritian stands below their love's window.

    • Looking For par'Mach In All The Wrong Places
      The title appears to come from a country and western song "Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places" by Johnny Lee. The song was featured in the 1980's movie Urban Cowboy.

    • Quark: War. What is it good for? If you ask me, absolutely nothing.
      This is a reference to the song "War (What Is It Good For)", by Edwin Starr.