The Golden Girls

Season 3 Episode 23

Mixed Blessing

Aired Unknown Mar 19, 1988 on NBC
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Dorothy's son, Michael pays another visit to Miami and this time he has an announcement, he's engaged. However, Dorothy has two more surprises in store, her future daughter-in-law is also black and twenty years older than Michael.

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  • Season 3, Episode 23.

    Dorothy's son Michael pays her a surprise visit while his band is in Florida, and makes a surprising announcement: he's getting married! However, his fiance, Lorraine, is black and twice his age! Hehe, this was an entertaining episode. I liked watching it, but there seems like there's racism in this episode. I loved when Blanche and Rose walked out of the kitchen with the mud on their faces while Lorraine's mother and aunts were there. Haha, and I loved when Lorraine's mother said she would hire Dorothy to clean for her. Dorothy: Who are you calling a skinny white boy?!

    Rose: I think she meant Michael. Lorraine's Mom: You got that right.

    Rose: It was easy.

    Dorothy: Shut up, Rose!

    LMAO! I also loved Blanche liking black men. And yay, Lorraine's pregnant! And Michael is hot! Good episode.moreless
  • Eh...

    I don't really like this episode, although it's actually relatively funny. It's definitely better written than some, and if it were self contained, it would probably be alright, but it irritates me. It irritates me because it's clearly one of those "social issue" episodes, which I don't like, and because the characters' histories are pretty much ignored in order to make the point. Dorothy's son is obviously not 23. As the point is made in the trivia section, there's no way her son could be that age, and in the first episode he appeared in he was 29. However, this was ignored in order to make this episode. I don't like the fact that they did that. Plus, Lorraine is pregnant? Eww. She's much too old to be having a baby. Also, no mention of this baby is made in the last episode Michael appears in, and his age is consistent with his first appearance rather than this one. There's nothing wrong with the point of the episode (I think it's nice to see the two families enjoying the cheesecake together), but I do feel that it is somewhat out of place in the series.moreless
  • Dorothy's son Michael is getting married to Lorraine. Problems begin when Michael tells his mother that Lorraine is "kinda black." When Lorrain's family meets Michael, Lorrain's mother refuses to see her daughter married to some "skinny white boy."moreless

    This episode is hilarious! It brings to light many issues that may arise when couples are different, especially when it comes to age and race. Despite these issues being sensitive, this episode deals with them in a lighthearted way. Laughter is unavoidable when Sophia walks through the front door and sees both families facing each other in the living room. Her sole presence alerts the audience that they are in for a laugh. As always, Rose manages to tickle the funny bone as she attempts to keep the peace between the families. Blanche also contributes to the laughter by offering an answers to mystifying questions such as "What could a woman in her 40's possibly have in common with a boy in his 20's?" and "Is it true what they say about black men in bed?" Truly a classic!moreless
  • Michael annouces that he is getting married.

    Michael comes home and he tells his mother Dorthy the great news.That he is getting married.But he didn't tell anything about this girl.So when the day has come to meet Michael future wife.Boy wasn't Dorthy shock when she meets Michael future wife.At first Rose thought that it was Lorine mother.But it wasn't.After learning that Lorine is much older for Michael.She doesn't approve altough Michael says Lorine's mother doesn't care.So when it comes to meet Loreine family.Things doesn't get too happy or exciting.But in the end everything turned out alright.moreless
  • great lesson

    Dorothy who thinks she is so open minded, realizes she is not when she hesitates to ccept an older, African American woman to be her Daughter in la, I love how eventually she comes around and accepts her as the lady her son loves, something every should seein hpes they don't have the period of intolerance love is blind
Scott Jacoby

Scott Jacoby

Michael Zbornak

Guest Star

Rosalind Cash

Rosalind Cash

Lorraine Wagner

Guest Star

Virginia Capers

Virginia Capers

Greta Wagner

Guest Star

Trivia, Notes, Quotes and Allusions


  • TRIVIA (3)

    • In this episode, Blanche warns Dorothy not to interfere in her son's relationship, because Blanche herself almost lost her own daughter Becky when she butted in her personal life. Blanche is referring to the Season 3 episode Blanche's Little Girl, which aired shortly before this one. The thing is, it's odd that Blanche would regret having interfered in that particular situation, since it helped save Becky from marrying a jerk, and it actually brought Blanche even closer to her daughter.

      Correction: She was probably referring to the situation that took place four years before that episode, which was Rebecca dropping out of school to become a model. Blanche was against it and as a result, Rebecca did not speak to her until the events of "Blanche's Little Girl".

    • Michael was 29 in a episode in season 2 so how can he be 23 in season 3.

    • Stan and Dorothy were married for 38 years before getting divorced at least 3 years before this episode aired. Right now, though, their son Michael is apparently 23. Their first child was conceived out of wedlock, which would make that child at least 41. Even if their daughter Kate is the oldest, it's not possible for the two kids to be so far apart in age. This would mean that Stan and Dorothy had their second child once their oldest headed off to college, which seems incredibly far-fetched and was never indicated over the course of the series. Other episodes have led us to believe that Michael and Kate grew up together.

  • QUOTES (12)

    • Rose: The same thing happened with the Bigbotters back in St Olaf. You see, Gretchen had a thing for Buddy but Mr Bigbotter tried his best to keep them apart. Well, one day he came home to find them….how do I say….in the most indelicate situation.
      Dorothy: What did he do?
      Rose: Well, he yelled at them to stop, but they didn't, so he turned the hose on them.
      Blanche: He turned the hose on them???!!
      Rose: They were out in the front yard!
      Blanche (in horror): OOooooooh!!!
      Dorothy: Wait a minute….wait a minute….Buddy and Gretchen weren't people, were they?
      Rose: : Of course not, they were dogs! Buddy schnauzer and Gretchen was dalmatian. And Mr Bigbotter wasn't too happy when he ended up with a litter of "schalmatians"!

    • Michael: You are being small-minded.
      Dorothy: You know, a wise philosopher once said, "There are no small minds, just big heads."
      Michael: What the hell does that mean?
      Dorothy: I'm not sure. Come to think of it, it wasn't a philosopher, it was Rose.

    • Rose: Are you nervous because you haven't met Michael's fiancé?
      Dorothy: No, Rose. I'm nervous because if Sonny Bono gets elected Mayor of Palm Springs, he's going to make all the postmen wear leather bell-bottoms and a fur vest.

    • Rose: Can I ask a dumb question?
      Dorothy: Better than anybody I know.
      Rose: What color is black people's dandruff?
      Dorothy: Rose, black people don't have dandruff. God figures they've been through enough already.

    • Dorothy: (to Greta) Race is not even the issue. I mean, your daughter is twice my son's age! What could a woman in her 40's possibly have in common with a man in his 20's?
      Blanche: Sex! A man in his 20's is at his peak. A woman in her 40's is also at her peak, and when the two come together, hot damn!

    • Dorothy: These two are going to get married whether we like it or not. Do you like it?
      Greta: No.
      Dorothy: Neither do I.
      Greta: They're also going to have a baby whether we like it or not. Do you want to see it?
      Dorothy: Yes.
      Greta: So do I. So what do we do?
      Dorothy: What mothers have done since the beginning of time: pretend that we're happy, and then complain to anyone who will listen!

    • Sophia: (to man inside the eloping chapel) Excuse me, did a white man and a wrinkled old black woman just come in here?
      Dorothy: Ma!
      Greta: She means a regal black woman, and a scuzzy little white boy!

    • Dorothy: Rose. Can you excuse us.
      Rose: Sure. Where you going?
      Dorothy: No where. Get out.

    • Rose is looking at herself in a mirror, prompting her to use a beauty mask later in the episode; Dorothy is standing behind Rose

      Rose: Oh my God, I look terrible! (sees Dorothy) Oh, Dorothy, it's just you.

    • (to Lorraine's mother)
      Sophia: Is it true...what they say about...'black men in bed'?
      Blanche: (cutting in) Oh, yes, definitely! (pause) Oh...yes...definitely...I would like to know that, too!
      Dorothy: BLANCHE, that's stereotyping!
      Trudy: I don't care what you call it I'm just glad it's true!
      (They all laugh.)

    • Dorothy: Blanche, how would you feel if your son was marrying an older woman?
      Blanche: Dorothy, when my son was five years old he almost burnt down our entire town. Now nothing he does upsets me. Hell, he could marry Lilian Gish and I wouldn't care.

    • Michael: Lorraine is kinda . . . black.
      Dorothy: Kinda black? What does that mean, kinda black? That's like being kinda Spanish.
      Rose: Emilio Estevez is kinda Spanish.
      Dorothy: Thank you, Rose.

  • NOTES (3)

    • This episode was videotaped on February 22, 1988.

    • The background shot during the closing credits features Blanche holding a mirror in front of Rose's face while Dorothy stands behind Rose.

    • This episode deals with racism in its most accepted form. Dorothy, who does not hate black people, is not necessarily happy about Michael marrying a black girl. Lorraine's parents are not happy about Lorraine marrying a white boy either...but its doubtful either sides of the family are racist.


    • Sophia: What the hell is this--a revival of A Raisin in the Sun?

      A Raisin in the Sun is a very popular play that deals with racism and the struggles between black and white.