I am writing this in the memory of my difunct grandmother: Florde Maria.
I am a huge fan of yours and the work you do. Certainly I wish all the success to you and your loved ones.
I am writingthis because I wanted to share my family's dark past with you, in hopes to bring awareness on how damagin sexual abuse can be. And I would like this to be a subject for your talk show.
I am doing this not for me, but for my cousin Sara, who, for many years, was sexually abused by my uncle (her dad). The saddest part about it all is that the entire family knew what was happening, but they shamelessly turned a blind eye to the situation. I was a child too, and although I knew what was happening, I did not know how to stop it. Perhaps because, I too was a victim of sexual abuse, and did not know better.
The adults in the family simply did not care or wanted to challenge my uncle's autority in our closely knit family. The sexual abuse I witnessed, happened at my grandmother's house where my uncle also lived, and under my grandmother's watch. "Abue" (my grandma) was a wonderful woman, very religious, but someone who made mistakes and ultimately failed to protect us, specially my cousin Sara.
I am doing this also for my grandmother because I feel this is the only way in which she would forgive herself for all her neglect and for the many things she allowed to happen under her roof. My cousin Sara works as a part-time model in our native Colombian. I believe she is now 23. Although we recently reconnected through Facebook, we have not seen each othersince she was a child. She is a beautiful woman now, but no one outside our family knows she carries the unbanishing mark of rape.
I have not seen her in a long time, and want to mend things with her on behalf od my grandmother. I want to give her back the dignity she lost during so many years of sexual abuse. I simply cannot imagine what it must have been for Sara to overcome all this suffering.
I want and dream of my cousin being a top model, and to reach the heights that she has been deprived to reach. I know my grandmother is watching me from the heavens and is compelling me to write our story . I am certain Abue wants to be forgiven for her mistakes and desires healing for my cousin and the rest of our family.
This is probably a long shot in the dark, but we would be blessed if you could hear our story.